Now I could kick myself. I saw you in chat the other night but felt I was too busy at the time to jump in and talk. I just read this thread and now wish I would have jumped in to talk to you.
So, very sorry about your sister in law. Man, what a shocker for you and especially your older brother.
I guess, if they are not wanting to see much of you and they don't change that stance.. Hmm?
I'd start with writing her nice cards.
My neighbour is dying from cancer and it is very terminal... so GET WELL cards are a definite NO, NO.
I buy " thinking of you" cards whenever he is in the hospital and he really seems to have developed a sweet tooth. So I buy those little containers of mixed fudge samples and send along with my cards or those little Russell Stover boxes of chocolates,..stuff like that. Not a fortune on the pocket book but a great little gift of thought.
If they don't want to talk with you, then you could buy a slew of these cards and write a brief message on each one you send. If they talk to you a little, you could follow that up with short phone calls or brief visits.
Since my neighbour lives next door. I keep my visits as long as it takes to have a cup of tea. The tea gives us both a focus and I try to talk about everyday things. something I saw in nature, other family members. What I'm doing today. Funny things I read in the news like "50,000 missing cans of beer in N.B.".. not really downer news but kind of bizarre interests.. Light stuff, unless they start talking about something else. I scan the newspaper for just that kind of stuff. You can skim "theherald" quickly on line without subscribing for it.
Some women like .. those "Oprah" magazine, or Good housekeeping.. etc.(make sure you scan it for some unappropriate article first". Nature magazines..Canadian Geographic. That Nova Scotian East Coast magazine "Saltscape." (Just suggestions, Kaethra)
I'm so sorry Kaethra.. I thought your SL was going to be okay. What a kick in the teeth this has been.
Remember Dear Kaethra, our door and phone line is always open to you and yours. Anytime.
Special K and Mr. Special K