I've read dozens of threads here, some sounding similar to what I'm writing now. I can't help it, I want to talk about it. And I'm hoping you guys can help me avoid some mistakes and maybe make the transition a little easier.
I'm 34, been baptized since I was 17. My wife of 13 years is expecting our second child. My son is 6. My parents are not and never have been JW's. Her family are all JW's, "strong", but extremely superficial. My wife knows it and doesn't think much of them. My wife has often questioned the Society and even the Bible during our marriage. I was always the one trying to work up explanations (excuses) for it all, but recently I've hit a wall and come to the conclusion that the Bible is just a book and there simply is no God. Not that I have iron-clad proof he doesn't exist, just that it seems unlikely and I don't have any reasonable proof that he *does* exist. (If anyone's interested in the 'wall', I will happily relate all that.)
So, how do I tell my wife? She's days (hours?) away from giving birth, so clearly this will wait for a few weeks or even a month or two until the baby's born and things settle down a bit. She'll want to show the baby off at the Hall, so there will be a few meetings associated with that. I can smile and be nice, bow my head, the whole routine. No problem. For now.
But I need to tell her the truth. I was able to wrangle a hiatus from the meetings since she's pregnant and we have so much to do around the house. So we haven't been to the meetings in a month or two. I have been dropping little "have you ever wondered..." hints here and there, but nothing major.
Some of you have had to have this talk with your spouse, how did you handle it? There's no huge rush here, but I do feel some pressure from the fact that I now believe this is the only life we get. I don't want to waste any more precious time 'playing along' and I want to start deprogramming my six-year-old. Of course, that's going to be tricky if my wife decides to dig in her heels and remain in the organization.
Your advice, help, and experiences are appreciated!