Had a bit of an altercation this weekend... my Nephew in Law attempted to assault my wife....
This is the background:
I have a deaf mute nephew with a personality disorder. He's 32, and still lives with his mother and her fiancee. He has terrible mood swings, and has taken it out on his mother many times, leaving her battered and bruised. Her boyfriend has never done anything about it because she ALWAYS excuses him because he is deaf, and 'doesn't understand'!! She calls the police, and each time they arrive and he turns on the tears, she feels guilty and refuses to press charges. The way I see it, she is creating a maniac who thinks he can just hit women and get away with it.
He learnt the hard way on Saturday. He had been in a bad mood for most of the day, and ended up arguing with my wife over someting very trivial - he put WWF wrestling on and then left the room, and sat down at the PC. She turned the tv over to another channel, at which he flew into a rage. Normally, my wife is very mild mannered, and did try to explain that she thought he wasn;t interested in the programme, and it's no bother, he could put it back on. But that wasn't good enough, and in the end she started shouting back at him. His mother overheard, and just got between them as he lunged for my wife. As it happened, he only grazed her arm - his mother deflected the full force of the blow. My wife gathered up her things and left; as she left, her sister asked her if he hit her, to which she replied yes, and showed her the mark.
I won't go into the details of the fight that ensued - I'm not writing this with the intention of gloryfing violence, or bragging. Suffice to say, I walked away after making my point, but he hadn't finished. He ran into the kitchen, and grabbed a heavy bottle, then hit me at the back of the head with it - so I had to make my 'point' again, this time using a little more force!!
There are a few things that have stuck in my mind;
1) The eyes of a maniac, filled with sheer hatred as he tried to hit me with the bottle again, intent on doing some real damage.
2) The eyes of a coward - filled with terror as I stepped into his attack, deflected his blow and grabbed him by his collars.
3) The lies of a mother. She knows what a violent, vicious little bastard he is, and yet tried to tell me (and the police) that her son didn't hit my wife.
On the third point - is this normal ?? Would you lie to 'protect' your partner, even if you knew they were in the wrong ??
Would you take revenge if someone hurt, or threatened, your family ? If so, to what point would you say is reasonable ?
Bull!