When Will I Learn?

by sandy 14 Replies latest social relationships

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  Evesapple

  Hi Sandy,

  I come a very cultured background. My father is from the Czech Republic, my mother is Mexican. I grew up appreciating and being proud of my background, both sides. Not too many people can do that, have 2 very different cultures that they are a part of. I'm currently married to a very white Jewish man, and because of my strong white background our baby boy is blond and blue eyed, (on the contrary, I'm very dark, like my mother)...well, I couldn't be more proud of the family I have. My baby will learn all about his backgrounds...and I don't care what color he is...he's mine...and I'm with the only man I will ever love....and that's truely all that matters.....
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  sandy

  Please don't call him a liar. Mav

  I didn't mean that he is not attracted to me. I believe he is. I am insecure about it lasting though. I know the attraction to me is there. I am worried about us lasting because we are so different.

  Thanks for all the advice and experiences everyone. He really is a good guy and every day I am around him I get closer to him. Maybe what it all comes down is my fear of being hurt again.

  Feel free to bill me everyone for the therapy sessiond.
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  Nosferatu

  This is just a guess as to what is really going on.

  When you're actually with this guy, he treats you good, he's nice to you, but he really doesn't create that spark inside of you. However, when the two of you go your sepeate ways, you no longer have him around like you used to, and the unusual change in your daily routine makes you think of him more. The more you think of him, the more you miss him, but when you're together, it really doesn't seem all that special. The guy isn't pushing your attraction buttons when you spend time with him.

  If that's the case, it may be best to move on instead of having an on/off relationship with him. You'll both recover much faster, and you'll both find yourselves better off.
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  Maverick

  I think Nos may be on to something. Mav
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  sandy

  Nos, you make very good points. With me though there are really hot guys like you see in movies or in magazine ads then there are just the rest of you guys. No offense.

  It takes me awhile to be really attracted to someone I am dating. It is not that the guys I date are ugly, (some have been) but they are not super model material either. The more I am around him the more and more attracted i am to him. This is how I have always been.

  I'm really trying with this guy now. Because I cannot deny that I really care for him. So we'll see what happens. Maybe I'll be having a chinese/mexican baby in a few years.