Yes, it is far better to talk openly about sex in the home and educate your kids right around the time they are developing. Their urges and hormones are real and we can't ignore them and neither can we realistically ask our children to ignore them. When you ignore your feelings and desires, the amperage automatically gets turned up in our brains. So talk about it openly.
I have found it very effective to not only address sex, but also the realistic possibility that "you, my kid, might just become sexually active whether I like it or not. So, here is what you can expect, and here is what you can do to protect yourself should you make the decision to become sexually active". As a result, my kids are able to talk freely about sex, how they perceive it, what their expectations are and what would have to happen before they felt comfortable engaging in sex. My oldest waited until she was 18 and was certain that she was in love with her boyfriend. They had been dating for months before they took that step, and it wasn't because we pressured her to wait. She wisely did that on her own based on the many many conversations we had individually and as a family. The next in line, 17, is following suit and while dating unshaparoned, she does not seem to be in a hurry to go there. She is not yet sexually active, but has begun taking birthcontrol as a precaution. (I would rather have my daughter lose her virginity to someone she cares about and remain childless for now, than for her to be an eighteen year old mother without a husband and me be a grampa at 37).
As for you, KeepinitReal: (I am assuming you are a self-righteous young brother and maybe even gay)
I totally appreciate my mom teaching me about sex education. She has warned me of what happens; everything from illness, to pregnancy, to the deep guilt (only those who LOVE Jehovah would have a conscience and understand that). I have no desire to date, or have sex. Reasons being, first of all, Jehovah himself does not like it. "taking advantage of the bloom of youth" does NOT mean to have sex. He wants those who are clean and chaste to serve him faithfully in his organization. People who willingly go against his COMMANDS in this matter do not have the reverential fear of him as they should. Second, parents who keep a good eye on their children would not have to worry, it is a total lack of parental supervision and concern that motivates kids to decieve their parents. Can you hear a young girl saying this..."Why did I have a boyfriend at 14? Because I COULD GET AWAY WITH IT." Geez, Parents, step up to your responsibilities!! Don't say, "they will have sex nomatter what" Yeah right. I am living proof that the statement made is a falsehood. By instilling a deep love of Jehovah within ourselves we can deal with those hormonal times with prayer and meditation. He can help us through ANYTHING.
Good parents will give us the education needed throughout tough times from the Bible. NOT throwing a bible at your kid and yelling at him or her to go to their rooms and read it, what will that do?! No, but sitting down and explaining from biblical verses "how to make your yes mean yes, and your no mean no." Doesn't anybody remember what happened with Dana in the bible?! And as for teens who go out and go against Jehovahs and their parents wishes. Remember, if they are under 18, they are still minors! They are still under your care and keeping. You can help lead them down the right path. Children need guidence.
I have love for Jehovah that cannot be broken. Because of my deep respect for him, I will not disobey him. This love was seeded from hours upon hours of study, first with my mom, and once the seed was planted, then it grew within me. See? Even though young ones who remain chaste are hard to find, they are still out there. And your young ones can be one of those.
~A 17 year old faithful Witness of Jehovah
You lie when you say you have no desire to have sex, lol. You are human, and Jehovah gave those natural desires to you. The WTBTS wants you to pretend they do not exist. You remember that the next time you are jerking it in the shower before the meeting on Sunday. You remember what you just said when you are sitting out in the car with a young sister fogging up the windows trying to get to second base.
While it is not wise to engage in sex before you are ready for the responsibility that goes along with it, to deny that you have those urges is a lie. If you can exercise self-control then you are a good boy.
Teenagers having sex is not a matter of lack of parental caring and supervision. That is the most absurd narrow minded thing I have ever heard. I have seen too many JW kids, sons and daughters of elders, prove you wrong. You've seen it too. You know the ones . . . parents are so strict and watchful that their poor kids can't even take a dump without getting counselled about it. They pop the hardest, tho, don't they? When they finally break away, they go bouncing all over the place and "bring reproach" upon the congregation, Jehovah, and their theocratic family's good name, don't they? Where do you live? Keep that real why don't you.
Next time you come on here, sonny, show a little respect and remember that you are talking to many people who are 3 X your age, more educated, more experienced who lived the JW crap you are spouting. I invite you to stick around and read more posts. You want education? Education is in your midst. Show a little more respect because we can see your IP number and it could easily be given to the WTBTS for tracing.
Kind Regards,
Corvin
