hey Peter,
Nice to meet you - and thanks for your post. Fine points.
Would we rather be back in the WTS where anything we said that didn't exactly go along party lines, would be brought to the elders attention? Not me...
Not me either. Thought one of the reasons we left was so we could think and speak about all sorts of things.
If JanG wrote something about compassion, why not just take it at face value, and not judge? Maybe it's Jan's way of trying to be more compassionate! Let's not judge each other...please.
Man, as jw's we did some serious judging of others motivation, didn't we? And then the marking and/or "loving correction" wouldn't be far behind.
Hey CornerStone
No one can ever say that that they ARE compassionate or that they somehow have ARRIVED at the state of being compassionate. Compassion is a work in progress.
An interesting thought. Like love, empathy, etc., emotions are fluid.
And what might pass for compassion to you might look like spitefulness to me. "But I was trying to help you, sister, by pointing out what I think are your faults in front of others."
hey jang
I responded to this post over at H20 - some good thoughts. It can be construed to have a motive of conciliation between posters. Or it can be taken at face value. Because we all should be striving for compassion in our lives, even to ourselves.
And I agree, compassion for another human is not subjugating yourself in co-dependency to that person. Just like standing-your-ground doesn't have to mean being an in-your-face-jerk. Wide spectrum of emotions and actions.
I don't understand why people come down so hard on you for doing what you perceive as good work. You did/do/will do more for others than I'll ever accomplish, and you've overcome a tremendous amount of hardship in your life. It's like coming down on a homeless shelter for advertising that they're open and will help strangers. So you speak about things, so what?
Another poster yesterday refused to answer my question about her post because she didn't like my attitude which she took it upon herself to perceive. She thought I was being sarcastic - I thought I was being quite polite. Go figure. I think sometimes you're being judged because of superlative words such as the "must". Doesn't bother me, but it sure seems to pi*s the hell out of other people.
Anything I, or you, say can be taken for face value, or picked apart, or dismissed, for hidden meanings. To predominately look for ulterior motives in another person might make us miss the other person completely.
And that could be perceived as a lack of compassion. At the very least, a lack of empathy, fellow feeling.
Thanks for the information. I need it when dealing with my mother-in-law. She just irritates me to death, and she ain't gonna drop dead soon.....so I guess I'll work on compassion/empathy. Sigh......
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