What I remember is the first light was discussed at the service meeting. My best friend was very ignorant of sexual things even tho she was married. After the meeting she asked an elders wife, with me standing with her, what oral sex was. She was aghast. I will never forget her words. " I can't believe that sombody would put in their mouth what I won't even touch with my hand." There was no way that I would ever admit that I had experience in such goings on. I knew what would happen to me if I fessed up.
When the retraction came down the pike it was not mentioned at a meeting. Many dubs still feel that it is a forbidden no-no. The wording in the new light is so wishy-washy and it still leans toward the it's a bad thing. The only thing that they did was make it a conscience thing which in double-speak means that you are spiritually weak if you exersize your conscience and do it.
I have heard of couples being counseled against it even now.
Loris