Background information:First of all, I am not a JW. I divorced my husband due to his alcohol addiction and because he repeatedly refused to seek help. I could no longer carry the burden, and so after 30 years, I left. Some time after this, I fell in love with a married man, a JW. We had been friends for years , having many things in common. His wife is also an alcoholic. She has never been able to kick the habit, either.
The love between us brought us both happiness and we talked many times about the day we would be married. I always believed we could manage this. I am now finding out more about the JW beliefs (scriptural divorce) and I am afraid. My JW man has not been involved with his Kingdom Hall for a long time but I feel he is leaning towards becoming active again. He says he cannot divorce his wife, though he'd like to. He says he could not ever get a scriptural divorce. It is weighing him down that he has had an affair, even though he believes we are right for each other. He worries about everything a lot. He has broken off contact with me, even though we have been in love with each other for many years now. This is killing him as much as it is killing me. He did not want to give me up. Saying goodbye to the person you love is devastating.
I do not want or deserve approval for having an affair with him. I am a Christian. I know it is wrong. But love happened and it is something that cannot be turned off once it is in your heart.
I suppose my real purpose to post here is to find out if there are any other reasons to get a scriptural divorce? Doesn't it matter that his wife and my husband both left the marriages unattended when they chose to love booze more than they loved us? Isn't this abuse when the sober party has to constantly take care of a drunk?
I don't know if I should have posted this or not. I only want some help. I don't know where to go. Thank you.