OnTheWay Out -
Thank you for your response. Right now I'm trying to learn the best approach and trying to learn about JW.
This is the most straightforward post I have read from you. I understand why you might have thought you needed to start out your first post with a bit of deception. You did not know who we are and what we would think.
It is a huge shame that your daughter did not finish high school. She could always go to college later, but finishing school seems to me to be the biggest problem. If you focus on her running off with some guy to some some religion, you may very well become "the persecution" that JW's describe- they say "Your own family members will be opposed to you learning about Jehovah God" or similar crap like that. She is over 18 and considered an adult, so it is not really "running away."
Were I you, this would be my focus- "Just finish high school somehow. Get a GED at the very least." Tell her how nobody knows when the end of the world will come and so many have died of old age waiting for it, so they should have at least gotten a diploma and made enough money to support themselves. "Surely, the Jehovah's Witnesses want you to be self-supportive." (...and that is true.)
Of course you want the best for your daughter, and that would be to finish high school and accept some college offer, but she probably doesn't see this as a desperate situation. We are not cold to what you see. I get that a few bad decisions at this time in her life are ruining her easiest path to a successful career and normal life.
I get that many people miss these opportunities and NEVER get back on track. So I get your desperation. I wish we could convey that to you at the same time we try to convey that she is probably not in real danger. I wish we could tell you there is still a good hope she will finish high school and accept some scholarship offer. Reality tells us that it is probably not going to work out that way. Sorry if that sounds cold, just stating typical reality.
If it's been a very short time, I would plead with her to simply come home to finish high school. I would tell her that there will be no judging, no punishments. You simply want to continue to put a roof over her head for a handful of months so that she can graduate high school. I would say that then she can go do what she wants. I don't know about you, but were it me, I would say that finishing high school is so important in my opinion that I would even tolerate the boyfriend staying in my home if he sincerely tries to find work to pay his own way. I have to imagine that, at the worst, she would have to take an entire semester in summer school or attend her senior year again next year. I would insist that I know how important that is. (Use your own life example if appropriate- "I see how things could have been so different if I had (or had not) done this or that... I only want you to have opportunities that are more available when you are young. You can still live your life any way you want.")
If she insists it's too late for that, then I would just want to tell her you want to stay in her life and she is always welcome at home.
When you say "All that is explained in a previous post," we don't know which post and what thread. You started 3 threads about this subject and we don't all read all the pages of even one thread, let alone multiple threads. You started out with a lie because you were not sure about what kind of people are here on this forum. So don't assume we are all following the story correctly and fully. Some might think the guy is disfellowshipped and some might think he is unbaptized. Some might still answer the false information of the first thread. If you want to keep asking us for information, you may need to clarify things.
Personally, because of the confusion, I would add, at the end of 2 threads, a link to the 3rd thread.
(And I would use the one to continue- https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5862396603138048/18-year-old-daughter-moves-boyfriend-studying-become-witness) In the comment with the link, I would say a short summary that whatever was said, you hope the one thread will clear it up. Never assume we will go find "a previous post."