Here’s a little back story. I met this JW girl 4 months ago online and found out she was a jw 2 months later after confessing my liking for her. We had a long conversation about it with her explaining what exactly a jw is and the rules and what not. I wasn’t too familiar with any of it but I was willing to work with her and deal with what’s to come. She admitted that the jw life wasn’t for her and she has been contemplating leaving the cult for a few years now. Her biggest problem with that is leaving her whole family and being shunned by them.
From those 2 months to today, we’ve had a great time (all online and through phone calls and what not). I can’t visit her and she can visit me because she’s scared of what could happen if people found out. So as of now, she is extremely overwhelmed and torn between leaving the cult and her family. She hates having to keep me as a secret and basically living 2 lives. I’ve given her tons of resources and stories of others and explained a lot of things to her in the most unselfish way. I’m not making her choose me or her family (although that’s essentially what is happening). But I want her to do what makes her more happy in the end. She wasn’t happy before I came into her life. The witness life isn’t for her. She just doesn’t want to leave her family.
Right now we’ve said all that we could. She said she needs space from everyone and everything to figure out what she wants and that’s what I’m doing. Giving her space. Besides space, is there anything else I could do or should do or should have done differently? We fell for each other and I don’t want to lose her when I know deep in her heart that she wants to leave the cult. I don’t know what to do.