Dan, I remember when you first told us about your experience. I thought it was just horrible what you had to go through. My hubby was having a similar situation on his job because this woman was really coming on to him--being very suggestive, leaving him notes, etc. He would come home and tell me that he never gave her the time of day, only greeted her like normal. He had known her for years because they had worked in the same office for a very long time. She was hired after him and is twelve years younger. He knew her when she was single, when she got married, when she had her kids, and then how unhappy she was in her marriage. He helped her with her computer problems, which is his job, and she took his helpfulness and courtesy for something else.
She knew he was married, and in fact I had met her a couple times over the years. She treated me badly when we were re-introduced three years ago. It was then that I knew for certain she had an agenda. At first hubby said that he didn't think she "was that kind of person"; but gradually he began letting me know things that she had said to him--very personal things, and questions she had asked him, about whether or not he was happily married. I did manage to convince him that he really needed to watch himself because she had her sights on him, and this made him a nervous wreck. He admitted to me that he was rather flattered at first, but then he realized what power a woman had and how she could misuse it and cause him problems.
Every day hubby would be so stressed out on the job, because she was spreading things around in the office and the rumor mill was beginning. He wanted me to know there was absolutely nothing to it, but that he didn't know what to do. He told me that he guessed he would have to be very curt with her and not even make eye contact. I encouraged him to speak to his supervisor, but he said it would be too humiliating. Since that time, she suddenly quit her position, but was later re-hired into a position which actually placed her over the entire office my husband is in. Talk about intimidation. The thing is, she is basically so busy in her new job, that they don't have that much to discuss so she isn't in his office first thing every morning and calling him, etc. I think she may have moved on to greener fields--but I'm leery.
However, at the recent office Christmas party, she stood by and glared at me the entire time we were there. She never once spoke to my husband, which was fine. Before we left, we practically bumped into each other, and she coyly said "do I know you?", and I said oh yes, of course, we have met and you do know my husband. Like a snake she said, "oh, now how could I have forgotten that?" and turned and walked away.
My hubby tells me that she really hates men in general, so she flaunts herself around, flirting and carrying on just to see how far she can get. Women like that are dangerous.
I understand how upset and angry you are to be placed in this situation--especially since she has already made trouble for you. Have you ever thought about just leaving there and seeking a new job? I know that it is difficult to do something like that, but if it would help you to move past this experience, then I'd at least think about it.
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