Steel » Having power of attorney over another man's wife really seems to be personally and legally crossing a line. I am actually talking to a lawyer next week about estate planning and getting our wills done. God knows whatever else they are involved in my life.
In my view it's crossing a HUGE line. Have you considered taking it up with the elder, himself?
It's bad enough that these men, appointed by the Society, are so influential in the members' homes and families that they can (and do) divide them. In this case, however, it's difficult to tell what happened. If your wife went to the elder and complained that, in a medical emergency, she could not rely on you to reject the administration of blood in her behalf, he might have volunteered to be her contact.
On the other hand, if you're no longer a believer, what would she do if you were unconscious and needed blood? In some sense you can't trust her, either. It's entirely possible she went to the elder because she couldn't trust what you'd do. Or it's possible the elder inserted himself into the situation because he didn't trust you.
Before you proceed, you really need to find out what happened. You may be able to talk to the elder directly and discuss the possibility of rearranging his nose if he didn't find somewhere else to stick it. But if wifey went to him, then you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and discuss what you both want in the case of an emergency.
When God forbade the drinking of blood in the Old Testament, there were no medical uses for blood. He could not have made the exception at the time. So if He were willing to make an exception for the medical uses of blood, how would anyone know? According to the Governing Body, the Lord no longer speaks to man. His lips are sealed. Thus it should be a private matter unless the GB says Jehovah appeared to them and gave them further light. As it is, their exegesis is so unbelievably bad that it should shame the entire organization.