Ex JW of 30 years , still messed up from it

by Doubledecker 26 Replies latest jw friends

  • snugglebunny

    Fear of disapproval, fear of being abandoned by loved ones. All sense of self-esteem measured against our own behaviour, forever coming up short. In such areas are obsessions and compulsions based. The NHS has some interesting points of view in their depression - anxiety - OCD advice pages.

  • Victor

    Get some professional help. The cost is an investment in yourself and future happiness

  • Muddy Waters
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  • Pete Zahut
    Pete Zahut

    We are wired to survive and keep ourselves alive therefore we pay more attention to information that causes us to be fearful. Information that cannot be backed up by hard and tangible evidence can cause fear in us because we are afraid of the unknown and willing to fear the worst...just in case.

    People used to believe that the earth was flat and if you sailed off the edge of it, there were monsters and dragons waiting to kill you. They could’ve just as easily assumed there were fluffy clouds and magical fairies there to rescue you but it was easier for them to believe in something scary.

    Accurate information about the earth was the key to ridding themselves of these fears. Likewise disapproving the doctrines of Jehovah’s Witnesses that established these fears in you in the first place, is the key to ridding yourself of the fears they systematically placed in you.

    The trouble is, the doctrines of Jehovah’s Witnesses also teach you not to dare to look beyond what they have instilled in you.

  • minimus

    You can get over it. It’s about dealing with truth. Once you accept that the religion is simply not the Truth, it’s easier to say byebye

  • EverApostate

    Once when you realize that All religions are scams, peace would empower you. Needs a lot of research and open mind thinking

  • Vidiot
    Pete Zahut -The trouble is, the doctrines of Jehovah’s Witnesses also teach you not to dare to look beyond what they have instilled in you.”

    One of the biggest things the Org did wrong was, IMO, the same mistake Herbert Armstrong made...

    ...projecting too much absolute surety in their own rightness...

    ...i.e., never even considering the possibility that they might be wrong about anything, and more importantly, that being wrong about something might come back and bite them so hard on the ass later.

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