On the other hand, the elders
may find that while the husband did confess adultery
to his wife, he did not tell her the full extent of his
wrong conduct and left out important information
that the wife should know. The elders should not pro-
vide this confidential information to the wife, but
they can suggest that she speak with her husbandagain.
Full context shown above. The "elders do not provide confidential information" is in the context of "the husband DID confess, he just didn't give all the details."
Lots of complaints on this board about how elders stick their noses into private family matters. And when there is written direction to NOT stick their noses into private family issues (well, relatively, anyway) there are still complaints.
There's plenty of stuff to criticize them over. When they (more or less) get in the neighborhood of being right, we should look for legitimate gripes instead.