What was your ''the last straw that broke the camels back'' moment
What was your ''the last straw that broke the camels back'' moment
...When I was a Kid.........I`d look around the Kingdom Hall and.......
We talked on the phone for 5 years 4 or 5 times a day. I will add he called me, i never called him. As I traveled through his state about once every three months we would get together for a long day together. I will add we never really discussed his religion because I had made it very clear in the beginning that I believe in God but strongly do not believe in religion. Then he gave me the JW book on Families well I read it. I will add that I have always been a very big child's advocate. I mildly made a couple of comments to him about the contents of the book. LOL. He did not tell me the rules about we do not question our beliefs. LOL The mild questions then got a little stronger. Then a started asking about women because oops I am also a woman's advocate. To say the least he was staying calm, I was getting heated because he was avoiding all questions.
For me was the realization that this religion had hierarchy just like all other religions. When Elder wives and children are allowed special privileges (such as access to rooms at assembly halls or knowing private information, or being allowed to get away with things others can't) that I knew this religion was no different.
Interestingly I figured this all out at age 15 on the very day I was baptized and left by age 18. Later I learned the rest about the religion on this site.
Answer to that for me was the lying and deceiving corruption surrounding 1975 .
People were putting off getting married, having children, dropped out of school and unfortunately some committed suicide.
Being brought up in this religion I could see the damage it was causing people.
I smelt some disingenuous corruption going on that had a connection to the WTS GB heads creating this year out of calculating endeavor into pushing more of its literature, not out of deeply rooted honesty of bring forth the truth.
It wasn't until later on that I found out that the WTS had used that 6000 year dating calculation twice before prior to the late 1960's.
The WTS leaders do one thing proficiently and that is exploit people's own inherent ignorance as means of manipulation and coercion. All of the lies the WTS are interconnected such as we are god's chosen organization. How do you survive Armageddon ? you must be in are organization and be subservient to it ? . .......and so on.
Mine was in 2008 at the summer 3 day assembly. It was actually a chain of events during that assembly that made me finally say eff this Org.
My wife at the time and I were already having serious doubts and basically leading a double life because we wanted a little freedom, but we still mostly believed and tried to do what we thought was right.
My wife had back problems even though she was only 23 due to arthritis which led to a slipped disc injury at work. Either sitting or standing for long periods of time were difficult for her so we needed to sit somewhere she could get up and walk around very frequently. We decided to sit up in the nosebleed section so we could find aisle seats but unfortunately they were all taken. Now, this was one of those conventions where they put that stupid yellow tape up to block off sections of seating for no apparent reason. The yellow tape at the top was right up against the backs of the last row of seats so I just flipped it over the back of them and we sat there.
Well about ten minutes later, along comes an attendant asking what we were doing and why we were sitting there. I explained the situation and he told us we would have to move, then he proceeded to ask the guy on row down if he could go find another seat so we could sit there!
After the guy moved and we were settled in, the attendant came back and said, "So I need to ask you, how did you hurt your back?". It was apparent from his tone that he didn't believe us and was trying to figure out if we were lying. I held my tongue and let my wife explain.
So the last day after lunch my wife just couldn't deal with going up and down stairs anymore, so we decided to sit on the walkway that goes around the stadium, the spot where the elderly and disabled sometimes sit. There was a stack of plastic school-type chairs and probably 8-10 elderly ones sitting on those chairs in that area so I figured it would be fine for us to sit there, the walkway was 20 feet wide, plenty of room, we wouldn't be in the way.
Over the next hour or so I started noticing unapproving glances from attendants as they walked by, kinda wondered what that was about but continued listening to the program.
After a while it was almost time for the drama to start, so we both got up to use the restroom. When we got back, our chairs were gone and the stack of chars had been moved around a corner out of sight. This pissed me off and I realized what the looks from attendants had been about. I grabbed two of the chairs and put them back where we were sitting and sat down.
The drama was the final straw. I'm pretty sure this was in 2008 but not 100% sure. Anyways the drama was about a kid in his late teens who had a chance to get his dream job of being a video game developer. The whole thing was just one big guilt trip to the kid about how he should be putting J-ho first. The kid in the drama even set his work schedule so he could make all the meetings and service every week, but by the end of it his parents had convinced him to give up on his dream and be a pioneer because things of this world will never pay off.
That was it, during the applause after the drama, I turned to my wife, said "we're leaving", got up and walked out. The bulk of my doubts were from the way eldubs and other certain people acted in the first place, and this assembly just sealed the deal.
Here we were trying to tough through health problems, using the only real extra money we would have all summer, my vacation days from work, for what? To be accused of lying and told were not allowed to have any sort of a life? Nope, no thanks.
After that, any meetings or assemblies I went to were to appease family and I was completely mentally out.
I think it was an assembly skit involving a group of young men. Of course, they choose the most attractive bros to appeal to the young sistas. They were sitting around talking about where they wanted to live in the NS and the type of house they wanted to live in. The theme was making the kingdom real to you. It was pathetic to hear the propaganda to put the kingdom first for the rewards later. Surprisingly, they all wanted to live in beautiful homes, with beautiful views, and perfect women. LOL.
I think the chang on the "generation that won't pass away" in 1995 was a wake up call for me. From there I started to carefully research the blood policy and by late 1996 I knew it was wrong. No response on the matter from Dan Sydlik in January 1997, so I started "New Light on Blood" in February of that year (would late become AJWRB). I am sure it became apparent to the local body that I was not towing the line, and would not put up with any bullshit from anyone anymore. That led to me increasingly being labeled a "liberal", and a lot of confrontation with conservatives on the body. The last straw came when the body assigned two elders to ask me a series of questions - apparently as some sort of test. One of the questions was, "when was the last time you agreed to disfellowship a young person". That was it for me - I was done. Pulled my family out of that hall and never went back. Tough decision to make, but definitely the right choice for me.
exjwlemming 24 minutes agoI think it was an assembly skit involving a group of young men. Of course, they choose the most attractive bros to appeal to the young sistas. They were sitting around talking about where they wanted to live in the NS and the type of house they wanted to live in. The theme was making the kingdom real to you. It was pathetic to hear the propaganda to put the kingdom first for the rewards later. Surprisingly, they all wanted to live in beautiful homes, with beautiful views, and perfect women. LOL. Heard that one as well a couple years ago at the Montreal ass. hall, same skit. Yeas all buff young men. Remember they are pimps, just like the by 23 year old you have to be MS to be marriage material or looser ville. I too tried to come back one last time after being inactive for a couple years thanks to burn out. But 2015 was a good year ! : March 15 WT total complete GB self adoration bunck study articles, the summer assembly with the giant 1984 type monitors on both sides of the stage, a young Marc Perron CO doing a sarcastic The Fonz type imitation saying " hey I can think for myself " and then belittling anyone that has critical thinking, the ARC with the dumb elders and Jackson's testimony and then JW.Org television with Lett asking for money. I DA'd in the spring, chickened out 2 days alter, asked to be transferred to English ( was in a French hall near my home ) then emailed the bro the following month asking if my file had been sent and never heard back. I assume they ran it by the CO's next visit and am guessing they cut me loose as I'm single and have no power over me. I read COC ISOCF COaC and even went to an Adventist meeting is how disgusted I was with the society. You can see how indoctrinated people are after you wake up, they have like a fog going on. Tried to level with a couple still in friends and an elder never saw them again after. Look of fear.
I realized that everything I did - everything that everyone was doing - was motivated, not by love, but by fear and guilt.
That's no way to live, or raise a family, so I left and never went back.
2010, already mentally out, I'm in the hall and about halfway through the Wat study I thought I can't do this anymore, walked out and never went back.