I so like your responses MYIONC! Your wife voices her concerns and you offer some kind of semi-JW friendly reply which doesn't exactly satisfy her because she's realizing all is not well within JWland. There will be a rocky path ahead for her and, by extension, you. As Ding said (above) understatement is best.
I know I don't need to advise you to be careful - your gentle, off-the-cuff rejoinders are lovely. But, as they say, fasten your seatbelt - it's going to be a bumpy evening.