Thank you everyone. I have since disassociated, divorced, changed my name, and have sole custody of my two sons, including the younger son that was complaining about the inappropriate adults in the hall.
We left when my sons were 10 and 14 years of age, and nearly 5 years later they barely remember the religion so not too scarred by it, thankfully.
My ex-husband the elder was removed from being an elder after we left. The other elders were quite mad that I disassociated rather than waiting to be disfellowshipped, saying something to him to the effect that "you should have kept your wife under better control." When they texted me about my disassociation letter, I texted back that I was busy eating lunch because I didn't want to take the call. I thought of those elders, stomachs probably grumbling after an elders meeting following a Sunday morning meeting and how they probably thought I was so selfishly eating lunch, but oh well, it's kinda funny.
Anyway, the thing about the "two witness rule" that really got me was that even if 2 or more people complain about molestation or child sex abuse in regards to a specific perpetrator, the elders keep records but won't respond if there aren't 2 witnesses to the same events at the same time. Which seems to be a ridiculous mis-extension of scripture to the point where even someone as gullible as myself can no longer go along with it.
I hope their harm to children and society is finally recognized so they lose their tax-free status. Hit their assets, because that's all they really care about, in my opinion.