by Perry 46 Replies latest jw friends
For those who were raised/born in the truth:
1. Were you ever beaten as a child? And, I mean where the parent really crossed the line, not just spanking.
2. If yes, at what age did it stop?
3. Do you think it would have been the same if your parents weren't JW's?
1) Yes - frequently, with belts to where butts would bleed
2) Around 13 - when I "blossomed" - but the face slaps never stopped till I moved out
3) Yes - my mother was abusive & used her religion as an excuse.
I got spankings and 'no', my parents never once crossed the line. Even though that is the case, I won't be spanking my kids.
I know this is for children of JW parents, but my Catholic father beat the hell out of me and probably would have if he were a JW parent as well. Some parents are just like that....my mother hit us too.
I am sooo sorry... I meant to post this under "Friends"
That sucks Pettyrudger!
Again, my apologies to :
Pettygrudger
berylblue
StinktPantz
I reposted under Friends
<Moved to Friends>
My parents didn't spank very often... maybe it's because I was such a good kid.
When we have kids we do not want to spank them...ever. It seems so barbaric to hit your kid to get them to do what you want. If your child is too young to understand verbal discipline, they probably are too young to understand why they are being spanked. I just hope that we have children that are responsive to verbal discipline.
Yes, I'm clueless as I have never had children, but this is just what I'm hoping. We have a few good friends that never spank either and instead give loving verbal discipline and their kids are fantastic.
Hey Perry...I was hoping this was a bash sixofnine thread but. oh well...*LOL*
Yes until I was about 11. The last time was my mom giving it a whirl...I just laughed, but that pissed her off even more. I think I recall her cussing at me, which was real funny, hearing this good dubbie woman being so pissed off she just had to cuss...*LOL* Would it be different? Hmm..maybe less things to freak out about, but I think kids do dumb and dangerous things that sometimes warrant a spank..especially if they put themselves or others in danger, but that's a bit much in itself.
Sincerely,
District Overbeer
Hey Perry...I was hoping this was a bash sixofnine thread but. oh well...*LOL*
Perry <------------------------------ bitch slaps 6 of 9
Your turn.
Well, I sure as hell got beat alot. I thought it was all normal until way into adulthood. We had such a sterile family life that consisted of a vocabulary entirely from the WT publications. It all seems so unreal now.
My father would beat one of my older brothers and I'd be running around the back yard yelling wanting to do something about it.... at 5 years old. Then, my brothers would take it out on me by doing something mean. Only, I didn't get it.... I'd just laugh hysterically even if it hurt a little too much. I thought it was a joke. Then, I 'd go the K.H. and jokingly trip some kid, to continue the joke. Once I did this to the P.O. son. I got the crap beat out of me for that on the hall porch. It took years to figure out that the joke was only funny when I was being hurt.
Once I turned about 7 the beatings really started coming more frequently. I remember getting beat and my father screaming "God hates Liars". Well, after that I sure as hell wouldn't tell my father anything I'd done wrong. At least I had a good shot at avoiding a beating if I could lie good. I became an expert at it.
Mom beat me too. Either she didn't realize the extra underwear or admired my ingenuity, because she always let me go to my room to "get the belt".... I
conveniently kept extra shorts and underware and shorts that I could quickly slip on under my jeans. Mom, never really hurt me though.
Another time, I didn't make it to my seat in time when the convention program started. Mom had told me to be back when it started. So, Dad went looking for me. He found me and the Ex-Circuit Overseers son "walking like and egyptian" in the halls. The Bangles song "Walk like an Egyptian" was popular at the time. I got literally pulled by the ears back to my seat. I was about 12.
When we got home we had a family discussion that ended with my Dad demanding that my Mother beat me since it was she that I disobeyed. (I really wasn't that late) She refused to. I listened to them argue for several minutes about who was going to beat me. My mother was in tears. Finally, he pulled rank and threatened to whip mom if she didn't whip me. (Dad never hit mom, ever) In tears she started whipping me the whole time complaining while my father watched. He kept telling her that she wasn't doing it hard enough. While being beat, I protested that it did too hurt. (It really did) In desperation, Dad showed his spiritual qualifications and took the belt from her and said, "here's how you do it". Then he really went to town. I got beat twice that day for walking like an egyptian and embarrasing a man with no sense of humor at his religious convention.
In the sixth grade, I was dressing out for gym, when the coach saw dozens of belt welps criss crossing my back. Dad ALWAYS whipped me on the back. He silently walked up to me and examined my wounds. The only thing he said was, "you want me to report this?" I said, "definitely not. It was my fault anyway." I remember acting starnge the next few days because this was the first time I got an inkling that something was wrong. I thought all kids got beat up till then.
There is a lot I don' t remember very well. As an adult and in counseling, I asked my aunt how she thought I was treated as a child. She said my father was very harsh with me. As an example she said that when I was really little, I slammed a door acidentially at Grandmas house. Dad caught me on the run and slammed my head into a wall in front of everyone. She said it really pissed Grandpa off. I don't remember it at all. Maybe I was too little. Maybe I just laughed it off like I always learned to do.
The whippings stopped about age 14 or early 15. But, he found other ways to "punish me".
Dad has always been in good standing as a M.S. and always refused reccomendations for eldership. He said he couldn't stand to hear the dirt about other people. He is viewed as an exemplary christian by thousands of people after 50 years in the truth to this day.
I just looked at how much I wrote and am shocked. Didn't mean to ramble.
