Witness wedding questions
Just wondering about witness weddings and what is and isn't acceptable these days. I know that toasts are a no-no, but I'm wondering about other things, such as:
Is it OK to have a best man?
Is it OK to have bridesmaids?
Is it OK for a non-virgin to wear a white dress?
Is it OK for someone to give the bride away?
Is confetti acceptable?
YES ( the elders might want to get some details as to how the non-virgin lost it. more details the better, video is preferable. :)
NO!!!!!! ARE YOU CRAZY!!!!!!! YOU MIGHT AS WELL INVITE SATAN ON THE HONEY MOON!
Is it ok for someone to give the bride away., as long as he is not DF and
that also a no no for the best man and bridesmaids. Satan can give
the bride away but not a DF father.
A wedding in jw-land? It is a huge minefield with even more mines being laid as each decade goes by.
The person giving the wedding talk is supposed to quiz the bride and groom whether or not their courtship was *chaste*.
If the KH is used ALL in the wedding party must be in *good standing* including private reproof.
Don't know about confetti but I attended a JW wedding where the guests were given little vials of bubbles. The kind with the wand you blow through. It was a first for me. (It was held outdoors).
There will be no jumping over the broom.
Back in 1967 when I married my first wife, the rules were less strict for a KH wedding. In our wedding the best man and the bride's maid were both regular pioneers, but my wife's father was not a JW, and he gave her away. I think that in the 1980s they changed the rules for KH weddings and now require every member of the wedding party to be a JW in good standing.
They were even less strict in the 1950s as I remember JWs getting married in the KH where with the exception of the bride and groom the rest of the wedding party were all non-JW friends and relatives.
Speaking of witness weddings, I cant stand the custom of the witness celebrant introducing the new couple as "brother and sister so and so" instead of Mr and Mrs so and so...
It makes non-witnesses look around in a state of "huh??!!"
Or you can pitch the lot and get married in a park or by the sea..
the wts also has rules about what the couple do in the bedroom or don't do..
JW weddings is where you start to observe the ''control mode'' of the elders, or Organizations exploitive measures.