This is the first for my wife and I too. I say just do what you want. I didn't leave one cult to join another, so we'll do what we personally like. I don't like CHRISTmas because it smacks of the Bible, so no manger scenes or stars for us. No Santa Claus for us because it's every bit as unreal as CHRISTmas. But we love the lights, the trees with meaningful ornaments, the family, food, and a festive atmosphere. For us it will be a celebration of winter, snow, just appreciating the beauty around us. This year it will just be two of us figuring out what we want to make it and what we're comfortable with . You've done what others want for too long. Do you.