Well I have not been on this site for ages - so long that I had forgotten my username etc and have had to start again!
Anyway briefly - bought up in 'the truth', baptised at 18, married at 21, had kids, got divorced, remarried, disfellowshipped 15 years ago.
Parents and brother shun me.
Early last year father very ill, calls me. I arrange to visit him in hospital. Pleased to see me. Comes through his operation, returns home. Agrees that I can come and visit at home, although then got more unwell and died without me seeing him again.
Went to sort out funeral arrangements, went to funeral with my daughter. Wasn't allowed in KH for the after funeral get together.
Mum falls at home, ends up in hospital, diagnosed with dementia - staff will not allow her back to her home, so brother and I arrange a care home for her, in Essex as she wanted to be 'near her boys' (my brother and I both live in Essex, Mum was living near Eastbourne).
Regularly (most weeks) go to see Mum in the care home, often with my daughter (her grand-daughter).
Told tonight by my brother that things will have to return to how they were before Dad passed away - in other words no visits to Mum, no giving lifts to my brother or his wife. Totally cut off - again!
To be honest, it suits me fine in a way, but I get the feeling I've been used over the past year and a half to suit their needs but not to worry!
I said to my brother after he told me that I had heard about the JW's getting strict again re contact with disfellowshipped ones and that I had learnt of a 93 year old lady in America who had been a staunch JW for over 50 years but left due to the child molestation issue - now her grand-daughter will not even speak to her! My brother said that he wants to be loyal to Jehovah.
I said, that is fantastic, well done, have a good life. Goodbye!