No one ever makes a change in their life until they feel that the prices of their actions are greater than the benefits. Anyone who stays a Witness (or a Mormon, or a Republican, or plays computer games, or goes to work five days a week) is doing it because they are getting something out of it. Many Witnesses feel that operating within the Witness framework is the only way they know to be effective and feel free from the stresses of everyday life, and if they feel that way, they're right - it is the best they know.
At some time, we reached that price/benefit breaking point regarding our association with JW's, and we chose out. (True, many of us reached it un-consciously, getting tossed out rather than making a concsious choice to leave, but we still made a choice. If you feel this does not apply to you and you are a victim of unfair treatment, you probably were, but you wouldn't care unless you probably really want back in, so why are you reading a board like this? )
Immediately afterwards, many of us began to righteously share our new beliefs/lack of beliefs (often with a sense of righteous indignation that puts off others), and then we often got even more indignant when we discovered that other people weren't in the exact same position in their lives that we had just reached!
It's easy to remain proselytizers and just change the message. It's harder to decide that everyone makes their choices at their own time, and that our diatribes won't change anyone's mind. As long as they are getting the bennies (acceptance, a clear set of rules for "earning" acceptance, a feeling of belonging, and a feeling of being right when everyone else in the world is wrong), they will pay the prices, no matter what we say - hey, how long did we do exactly that?
Come on - I was in it for twenty years before deciding to leave, but now that I have, am I supposed to expect someone else to change their minds immediately just because I just did? That's me acting foolish, that's what that is.
It's not about your making a case, it's about individuals getting to a point in their lives where they actually want more than they can get as a Witness. Righteousness is annoying, no matter what position you're taking.
The best way to convince others that there is happiness outside the Society is to be happy, healthy, and successful. If you seem like a pissed-off grump all the time, who's gonna want to be like you? And hey, if you are happy, healthy, and successful, even if no one follows you out, guess what? You'll be happy, healthy, and successful, dummy ! :)
You can lead a horticulture, but you can' t make her think. (Dorothy Parker)