Wow! Thanks for all your responses and interest. Where do I start to explain more?
@ Stan livedeath: I'm a woman living in Britain. Followed avidly every single day of Aus Royal Commission and was saddened to realise that these men just don't seem to have the capacity to understand that current WT procedures for dealing with child abuse issues are archaic, ineffective and plain harmful to the victims. I was also utterly shocked to learn about WT's membership of the UN for 10 years and subsequent backtracking, attempted deception and lies when exposed. (among other things , but I'd take up far too much space if I listed every contradiction I have since found)
@katewild: I left my 'JW' husband for scriptural reasons , which I'd rather not go into. My daughter hasn't attended meetings since around that time and my son is more and more reluctant. So no opposition from them.
I am grateful for all of your suggestions on how to handle questions from friends. Luckily I recently moved offices at work and now travel to a different town, plus I work 5 days a week and I think most of my friends assume that my job, along with caring for the responsibilities of home and children, wear me out and that this is the reason for missing meetings more frequently. I am happy to let them believe this if it prevents me feeling obliged to answer uncomfortable questions. Otherwise, I am perfecting the art of vagueness and indirect responses which leave people none the wiser