Saw similar title in a Google search so thought I'd read more and now simply have to share my experience if anything to hear that I'm not insane and it is that simple.
Met and fell madly in love with a Witness, and her with me. What began as love at first sight turned into a 6 year relatiomship which simply ended very bluntly.
There were many painful twists and turns along the way, first from her inability to leave her husband, then my mistake in finding someone else as I simply couldn't take the pain of her coming and going with such simplicity, but in the end she got a divorce and suffered many consequences within 'the truth', and I sorted my issues which were many and admittedly dug with my own hands and stupidity in trying to protect a young girl who had done no wrong in this long affair.
Eventually we found ourself on what I believed to be the home straight. Both ridiculously in love and happy together, happier then I could possibly measure, talking about love, children and marriage. To the point where mere months ago at a friends wedding we were at she said we'd be inviting them to ours next. I'd planned and paid to propose in Florence in February on the 29th, right down to th time of day and exact place. In November I lost it over the phone as I simply couldn't stand being a secret anymore and not having some commitment from her. She'd met and was loved by my family and friends but I was merely a secret she suffered to keep. She didn't speak to me after that night and I imagined it'd be another period of adjustment before another hopeful step for us. But after reconnecting she's tired of being 'torn' and what seemed to be the greatest love of all has now become entirely one sided and we are never to speak again. It's entirely over and the love of my life has entirely abandoned me without so much as a look in the eye or even loving last words.
What I'm finding hard apart from the entirely obvious is that anybody could be so disconnected from a world we'd built together over years, being half of our whole one minute then a completely different person. I don't just find it heartbreaking and disrespectful to what we were, but horrendously disgusting and degrading. All she cares about is her secret, which I'll keep in respect of our love which unfortunately will forever continue to grow in me.
How is it that people who believe in love etc can be this way towards anybody never mind a past love? After such disgusting treatment from family and elders how can a religion still have such a hold? Are witnesses inherently broken as to feeling anything for anybody else? Happy to destroy anyone and anything or was I specifically wrong about her? Is this normal?
Perhaps this is just a little place to rant as those close to me perhaps don't understand the religious angle and focus more on her, I'd just like a balanced look just to maybe try to explain what to me is madness. How a woman can't possibly tell you how much she loves you, then 5 weeks later they can break everything you are?