I don't think it's wrong to make your own decision about what is right for you and your wife. Unlike in the organization, you can also change your mind as you learn and grow 😀. I don't do too much activist wise, because I think people have to find their own path.
I saw watchtower and awakes at our local court house, I ripped them up, and told the county commissioners that type of thing has no business in a secular building. Apparently an employee put them in the waiting area, not anymore! I will do stuff like that, as it comes up, but for the most part I just ignore everything JW related. It's not worth my time.