Good for you, standing your ground the last time.
How inconsiderate can family be, all they care about is how will it look it front of the other JW's. UNREAL.
I admire your decisions, my mom is doing very poorly, and I know the day is coming, I have thought about it and decided when/ if it happens, I will attend the funeral but I am not going to attend the service at the Kingdom Hall.
Also very sorry for your loss, remember the funeral is for your grandmother and you, nobody else.
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