Internally rolling my eyes.. Get this

by raven 23 Replies latest jw experiences

  • raven

    Hi everyone!

    A bit of an update, last weekend was my great grandmothers funeral, now, she was never a JW, and never was going to be, no matter how hard my mother, and grandmother tried to preach to her, she was the type of person that would kindly accept a WT or a book, but she wouldn't bother reading them.. Anyways, she was a great wonderful and inspiring woman, the funeral was extremely sad, she had been a school teacher for over 35 years and a member of various clubs, so there were a lot of folks besides family that attended.. Well, anyways I was there and so was my JW mother, stepfather, and grandmother, we were cordial, didn't talk about anything JW related because, it was great grandmothers funeral, not really a time to discuss how I am an evil sinner, or how I've escaped the org by avoiding DF'ing, right? Wrong, as I'm sitting waiting for the service to begin, a lady shows up, now- I have known this woman for a long time, apparently she baby sat me as a small child, (like I remember?) so she isn't someone I was ever close with, but knew of her or when she was around would say hi to and make small talk.. To give you a tid-bit on her personality though, she is one of those crazy JW's.. She claims to have been possessed by a demon, very very wacky on the prophesies, or GB talks, etc. You get it, the phsyco JW we all have in a hall, the one who would put their foot in the door if a householder was to shut it.. Yea a crazy lady.. So anyways, I see her, and I'm internally rolling my eyes, here we go... So I stand up to say hi since our eyes met, and she grabs me by the wrists of my hands and holds them up, and says to me "I HAVE BEEN HYSTERICALLY CRYING SINCE I FOUND OUT THAT YOU HAVE LEFT JEHOVAH" She goes on and on and on and on about how the battlegrounds have already started to align, and if I am aware of the new arrangement, (I said yes so she'd shut up, but no I don't know what the new arrangement is, can anyone tell me?) As she is going on about me leaving she starts bawling like a baby, crying and crying "COME BACK TO JEHOVAH, YOU ARE GOING TO DIE, SATAN HAS YOU NOW!!!!" Then she proceeds to repeat everything she already said, as I am standing there in complete disbelief, this lady seriously has the guts to pull this crap at my great-grandmothers FUNERAL? What about the whole "there is a time and a place for everything" Seriously? I could not even wrap my head around the fact that this was so inappropriate. As she is continuing to cry and sob like a baby, begging me to come back, saying "Do you promise me you will come back so you don't get destroyed, promise me? PROMISE?" Finally the service was going to begin and she pulls me in for a hug, gets tear drops on my top and goes to sit down.. After the service is over she comes back up to me as I am trying to avoid her, and says "Give me your number, once the girls you went to pioneer school find out about this they are going to be heartbroken, whats your Face-Book, call me, PLEASE!" I said, " I don't have Face-Book, and I have your #, thank you.." (I don't actually have her #) She then says "Promise me you will call me by next week and if I don't hear from you, I will get your #" .... Good god woman, leave me alone!!! So anyways no I have not reached out to this whack job. And I'm not planning on it, but I can only imagine what type of gossip she is spreading,because she is that kind of JW. Just ridiculous, so now I feel as though the funeral for my great-grandmother was in a sense, ruined for me because of this lady, I felt uncomfortable the entire time while I was supposed to be focused on my great grandma, and her life.. Just irritating..

  • Jehalapeno

    I'm sorry you had to go through this.

    I admire your restraint. It wasn't the time or place for her to do what she did, but it also wasn't the time or place to tell the lady, "DON'T YOU REALIZE YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A CULT MEMBER?"


    Again, sorry you had to endure that. I admire your ability to stay calm and not say anything...

  • Landy

    Tell her you would go to the meetings but all the sex and drugs is taking up all your time.

    Condolances on the loss of your great grandmother - she sounds like she was a wonderful woman.

  • HappyGal

    This encounter would have been difficult on an ordinary day but even more so at the funeral of your much-loved great grandmother. I'm sorry you had this bad experience.

    I'm very sorry for the loss of your great grandmother.

  • tepidpoultry

    I'm so sorry for your loss Raven

    The loss of my own grandmother was the hardest for me

    In regard to crazy lady

    Sane people even in the jdubs know she's crazy so I wouldn't worry

    Stay clear as much as you can and

    Make sure you know how to block numbers if necessary

    Also if it's not too much trouble and if you can do it privately:

    Find out her number

    Set her up as a contact so

    If she ever calls

    You will see her name on call display and you won't answer

    As I was reading your account I found it remarkable

    how well you held yourself together,




  • longgone

    Hi Raven,

    I'm sorry you've lost your great grandmother, it sounds like you have many good things to remember about her.

    Take care.

  • JWdaughter

    What a blessing you had in your great grandmother. People like that one lady can only make you appreciate your loving and sane grandmother all the more. My dad was my bit of sanity. I'm glad you had one, also!

  • scratchme1010
    scratchme1010 I am standing there in complete disbelief, this lady seriously has the guts to pull this crap at my great-grandmothers FUNERAL?..

    First, my condolences. Seems like you will be missing your grandma. Maybe you have some of her in you. Second, I'm so sorry that your mourning got so disgustingly interrupted by all that nonsense. Feel proud, though, that you handled yourself with grace.

    Many JWs truly believe that preaching to people in mourning is supposed to make them think that they can see the person they are mourning again in their stupid "paradise on Earth". I consider what they do at funerals to be the most disgusting, truly irresponsible, tasteless, classless action.

    I'm so sorry you went through that. Again, my condolences.

  • Zoos

    This story reminded me of a meme I once saw:

    "Sometimes you meet a person and know immediately that you would like to buy them a toaster for their bathtub."

  • Tallon

    @ Raven

    Condolences on your loss.

    That was definitely inappropriate behaviour exhibited by that crazy woman.

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