just GO

by teejay 10 Replies latest jw friends

  • teejay
    teejay

    Pathofthorns,

    Many said the gist what you did, but your response was a bit more pointed
    so I thought I'd address yours as representative of how I'd address several
    others. You said:

    >>some members such as RR have been a member of this online community
    >>for longer than most here. His perspective has been a unique one, and I do
    >>believe that sometimes it is a courtesy to say a brief farewell.

    Personally, I liked RR and am sad to see him go. I haven't been here long,
    but I always read what he had to say. He was usually very informative, not
    to mention brief.

    >>To say nothing leaves those who remain wondering if that person is
    >>alright, and a brief farewell assures everyone they are fine and are simply
    >>moving on with life. It is also nice to say goodbye and wish someone well.

    That's something I hadn't considered, but then, that's why I asked the
    question -- to see why someone would do something that I most likely
    wouldn't. You are right. I find that the case usually isn't one of
    wishing someone well, however. Usually the departing takes a
    condescending stab at someone individually or at the contributors as a
    whole. I don't recall whether or not RR did this, but I've noticed that is the
    usual MO.

    >>I am equally puzzled that some feel a need to start a whole thread and
    >>express something so trivial that really is an indirect negative remark on
    >>individuals choosing to exit in this manner.

    You have a right to be puzzled, I guess, but if you're puzzled as to my need
    to start a whole new thread to express something that's trivial to you (it
    didn't cost me but a few seconds of time -- it's not like I climbed a mountain
    or something… just asked a question I was curious about), I'm even
    more puzzled by your compulsion to take the time to respond
    to a subject you consider trivial. Now THAT is curious. Maybe I'll
    start another 'trivial' thread and see who stoops to respond to it. ;-)

    As I said, I really wasn't attacking RR's actions and am sorry if it seemed
    that way. I liked the guy.

    peace
    todd
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    bigboi,

    >>If you have probs with the board just leave. Stop posting, or just say your
    >>goodbyes and go. there is absolutely no reason to criticize ppl for getting
    >>into their own little squabbles. To me it is absolutely childish and absurd
    >>to think that ppl will get along all the time and everything will always be
    >>all warm and fuzzy. Sadly some of us still suffer from WTS delusions.

    …kinda what I was thinkin', Bigboi. Thanks for the understanding.

    peace
    todd
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    BugEye,

    >>Can give one a sense of victory to say "Its my bat and my ball and I'm
    >>going home now. So there!!!" Its one of lifes "little" pleasures.

    Could be. A way of getting in the last word.

    >>There was an Moscovite, a Sydneyite and a New Yorkian having dinner in a resturant…

    Funny.

    peace,
    todd
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    CornerStone,

    >>By your statement, are you saying that you don't want to hear a persons
    >>announcement for leaving? Is it possible that this makes you
    >>uncomfortable in some way?

    No, I'm not saying that I don't want to hear it and trust me: it doesn't make
    me uncomfortable. I just think that sometimes it carries a negative tone, as if
    to say that people feel that they are too good for the verbal repartee, the
    divergence of opinion. That they are above it all.

    >>I know that in the orgs collective, NO ONE wants to hear or CARES what
    >>you think or have to say. If you were in the org, is this a carry over from
    >>that line of thinking? Although I don't even know you, I know what you
    >>think and how you feel is JUST as important as how everyone else thinks
    >>and feels.

    Yes, I was raised in the truth, and I wonder about your line of reasoning.
    "No one wants to hear…"? Well, that's what I was thinking with respect to
    those who announce their departure. It seems that they are usually the
    ones who get upset about opinions with which they disagree and make it
    known that is the reason they are leaving. It's the people who stay who
    seem to me to be the ones who care about opposing points of view.

    >>So, IMHO, let people say goodbye.

    Agreed.

    >>How much can it realy hurt?

    None at all.

    peace,
    todd
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    TR,

    >>I'm the type to just fade away, if I feel like it's not the place for me.

    That's the way I feel and that's what I would do. But that's me. That's why
    I asked the question.

    Thanks, TR.

    Peace,
    todd

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