I know from previous posts that things have not been going to well for you lately. I am so sorry about your husband.
My husband and I were high school sweethearts. He also was my first and only boyfriend. We are going on to 25 years of marriage in July. We have been through some really tough times, times when I thought that we should just throw in the towel and start over. To add fuel to the fire, my husband became a JW soon after we were married. Our life together after that was very difficult to say the least. I am a very stubborn person and refused to let "that religion" ruin my marriage. Years, and a few children later, I gradually let the JW religion into my life and was convinced that this group of people had the answer to all the world's problems. Fast forward to today, and here I am posting on a ex-jw board trying to figure out what exactly I believe anymore.
My point in telling you my story is that life does not remain stagnant. There will always be change and turbulent times, especially when one mate is a different "religion"(and I use this word loosely). I chose to stay with my husband, and today we both see eye to eye on the JW organization and things are definitely a lot calmer.
Is your husband the one who is going to leave you? This would be against what the organization says. They quote the bible in saying to stay with a marriage mate, even if one has committed fornication, and try to work things out. Your husband is going against bible council if he is thinking of leaving you.
The JW's don't hold the patent on destroying marriages because of religious differences. When one mate is super religious and imposes his will on the other marriage mate, this is very hard to deal with. Believe me, I know. Have you guys tried professional marriage counseling? Maybe if your husband gets some input from an outside source, he will be more open minded on your views.
Religion is responsible for so much heartache in families, instead of trying to upbuild and strengthen family relationships, they do their best to destroy them.
I do know marriages within the organization where one mate was a JW and the other is inactive, or has never been a JW and their marriages seem to work. It is much more difficult when one mate leaves and the other remains, especially when children are involved.
My heart goes out to you rebel, and I hope that you and your husband can work things out. If he chooses to leave you, my advice is.....hire a good lawyer and get every penny out of him you can!
Take care of yourself and take one day at a time.
Mrs. Shakita
