Hey sweetie, I actually deliberated over even opening this thread when you first posted it because the subject matter makes me
so
damn
ANGRY.
You have no idea how sorry I am that you had to undergo such vile questioning by these perverted men. I honestly wish I could just give you the biggest hug and some support right now because you most certainly were wronged.
Should you decide to go through with exchanging words with the elder in question, a good tip I heard is to set your phone on record. This ensures you choose your words carefully and keep your dignity. Think of it as a silent reminder to keep yourself in check should you feel the emotions rising like bile.
Honestly, this is the face of every elder daring to probe with such private (and unnecessary!) questions:
Sending you so much love. We've got your back, girl.