In the past 20 years we have been in 4 different Congregations. Every Cong has its own "personality", which I believe is based on several things:
1) the elders and their personalities/attitudes -- because MS's and up-and-coming suckasses and delusional R&F will emulate the attitude of the elders;
2) the cliques, esp family cliques in the Cong -- Congs with big families that wield influence are notorious for being divisive and exclusionary, esp of others who are "different" from them (too poor, too rich, too smart, etc)
3) the affluence in the Cong or the area in which it is located -- yep, money talks and if you ain't got it in that affluent Cong then you won't fit it, and if you do have it in that poor, disadvantaged Cong then you possibly will be resented (unless you're rich enough to give all those poor folks a good job in your business)
4) your position -- if you come in as a Society appointed move-in, you're likely to be loved because others will see you as someone to follow up the rungs on the ladder. If your changing Congs because your old Cong wouldn't appoint you, the local BOE is going to question your motives (unless they have an ongoing grudge with the old Cong's BOE)
LOVE? Remember, love was to be an indicator of Jesus' TRUE DISCIPLES. Get the picture?