well, this opens a can of worms for me. Yes, at times I believe its my way or the highway. My parents were and are strict jw's , I was always considered the black sheep because I never conformed. Now that I think of it, my dad accepted me for the free spirit I was as a young girl/woman. He would take me hunting with him over my older brother. I at that time felt the favoured one. My brother never compared with me, he always butted heads with my father. I seemed to be the favoured one. Of course, my brother as far as I was concerned also lived the double life. but because I was a girl it was different.
It was when I hit my teens that they saw the rebellious side of me.
I can see their reasoning now, I have three children. ONe is full grown, so she is of no concern. She is doing fine in her adult life adapting well to the first borg like state that we wanted her in. But I find the young 13 and 11 year olds concern. They are trying. I try to do the time out thing when things get difficult. Because I've often said to my younger ones, you should have lived my live, then you would see what I'm trying to tell you. I find now that the society values are more in tune to the children and their rights. But I find that difficult to digest. Kids need to know boundaries. They need to know fear of law and authority. And as far as I could bring those virtues to them, they fight me all the way. It was just this week that I finally said, enough is enough, I need control of my adult life. I am the mom, as matter of fact, this is the way I am bringing you up for your own good.
So basically, yes it is my way or the highway, they need to learn values, boundaries, respect. endurance, something I fight with them day to day.
Yes I'm frazzled today, I've had a rough week. work wise, and kid wise. But I love my kids, I want the best for them, but they do have to learn to abide by rules. We are responsible adults for that. Something, I don't hold against the borg. I learned respect for law and authority living in the borg.
Its friday and I need to mellow out.