(I am still a serving elder. I have no idea how much longer I can stomach it. Timing is terrible for stepping down right now, though. So I play the chess game. At least I can relate some stories from the back room :)
So, in an elder's meeting of the whole body recently, a matter with a married brother (baptized non-attender) came up. He was accused of infidelity by his wife. The accusations flying around this guy sound like a Jerry Springer episode. Drugs, Hookers, run-ins with Police etc.
Well, he admits to nothing and there aren't enough verifiable witnesses for the elders to pin anything on him at this point. It's not like he attends or anything, but the wife has squealed on him. In the real world, a person can just divorce their spouse and move on. In JW world, a person has to jump through hoops to be "scripturally free". So this sister is trying to get her husband busted by the elders so she can then have permission to divorce him. (What is wrong with this picture?)
I sit back there shocked at how these men play "God" in people's lives. I avoid the drama and committee meetings as much as possible. The eager beaver elders usually speak up to chase this crap, so it works out for me.
What baffles me the most, though, is why would this guy even take a call from an elder? He actually took the call, set an appointment, and sat down with two elders - so they could interrogate him! And get this... there is another meeting scheduled with him! ....What?!
People are nuts...