first of all, I am not quite sure whether this is the right place to ask my questions. If this is not really appropriate, please tell me in advance, but I really did not know who to turn to, so I thought why not ask the Internet... Now, I know many of you are apostates and I'm not really looking for "leave it all behind you" answers, but really for experiences, thoughts and ideas... As well as maybe some verses if you can think of any.
anyway, first things first. Since this is very anonymous and I'd like to keep it that way, I will not give you my name, but still, I think some background info might be helpful. I'm 22 years old, I was not raised in the truth and I am currently an unbaptised publisher. My first contact to JW was when I was 19 - that was also the time I started studying the bible with them. By now I've completed the bible teach book and the God's love book. None of my family members are in the truth or even interested in it. I personally decided that I want to get baptised some months ago and therefore started preparing the questions. I'm not finished with that, but I will be pretty soon. In my personal planning this summer was the time I wanted to finally get baptised.
but it is an enormous step. I truly love Jehovah and I want to do what is right in his eyes (do you guys say that in English? It sounds a bit weird to me - I'm not a native speaker). In the last few weeks some questions came to my mind that I need answered before I get baptised. As I said: I think this is a big thing and I want to be 100% sure that this is what God wants me to (however, I do think baptism is something that God intended for us - I just want to be sure that this particular baptism is right)
now for my question: a few weeks ago I started to ask myself how the organisation sees transgender people, and - more importantly - how Jehovah sees them. I tried to find out about it online in the watchtower online library but I did not have any luck. There was only one article and it wasn't possible to read it online. So much for that. Then, one week ago I went to bethel. As a lucky (?) coincident one brother who works there brought the topic up as an example. What he told me shocked me. He said that a transgender person - even if they already had the surgery - has to identify, dress and behave like a person of the gender he/she was born with. Although I don't know anyone who is transgender and I am not transgender myself this seemed extremely cruel to me. I am lucky that I was born in a body I can identify with. If someone was to tell me today that I would have to live like a man from now on I would be devastated, and I think that's what transgender people feel that come to the hall...
my question for you guys is: have you any experience with transgender people in the congregation? Have you had to address them as Mr. if they were born a boy? Did someone oppose this instruction? How did it go? Generally, any experience would be interesting for me to read... I just could not force someone to dress/behave/act/be addressed as something different than she/he identifies with. As I said before, this seems cruel to me. On top of that I don't see any biblical nor logical evidence that this is what God intended... (On the contrary, in my opinion it is more important what you identify as than what your biological sex was when you were born)
this topic has me thinking for weeks now... And since this particular handling of a situation seemed just plainly wrong to me I started asking myself if there might be other things that are not as they should be... (As I said before, please do not just say "leave this behind you, they're stupid" or something but give constructive input)
well, my thoughts are a big blur right now and I hope I have written down anything that has been bothering me... Sorry for the very long post. I hope someone can help me. If you've made it this far in reading what I've written than let me thank you for bearing with me and for your patience.