Since You Have Left The Religion Are You Happier? (page 2)

Phizzy

I have written on here before about how life in the cult had brought me to the lowest point in my life, I was so depressed I was planning to end my life, you cannot get more miserable than that !

So, of course I am now happier, but by a HUGE factor ! My Therapist saved my life, identified it was the Cult that caused my problems , and showed me how to move forward.

Since then I have experienced what True Happiness is, I never did in all my decades in the Cult.

Now I am VERY happy, content in my own skin, and I hope, a joy to be around, I have much to offer others, the Cult would have destroyed all of this.

punkofnice

It's been a mix of many things.

It cost me my marriage. Whereas, I have no feelings for the re-married to a jobo ex, I still feel deeply betrayed and can see the effect it has had on the family.

I'm free but feeling rather aimless. After all, I was born in with nothing to replace the false high that 'religion' gave me.

I find people a bloody annoyance, if I'm honest.

guess I am now very cynical and joyless.

But, hey ho. what's the answer? Not a lot!

truth_b_known

guess I am now very cynical and joyless.
But, hey ho. what's the answer? Not a lot!

I feel you, PunkofNice. I was right there with you for years. It is easy to become nihilistic after leaving the Witness religion.

I suffered for about 20 years or so. I made a lot of choices that caused a lot of suffering to myself and others. I made a deep investigation into myself and why I did what I did. I figured it out. You can too.

just fine

Absolutely happier. I was depressed when “in” never felt like enough, always trying to please everyone else.

I left. I went to school, found my tribe, married and have a full life. Love my husband, love my job, love my life - the one I chose and built.

Overrated

The Watchtower says that those who leave live miserable lives. Right!?! I live the best life ever working to improve my self and family not serving a cult. The possibilities are endless not limited under Watchtower control.

LongHairGal

MINIMUS:

Yes, absolutely happier. Freedom. Reconnecting with estranged family and relatives before it was too late. Priceless.

However, it still makes me cringe though when I think of what COULD have happened if I were more gullible and fell for pressure to quit my full time job to pursue ‘full time ministry’!.. I wouldn’t be Retired today if I had! ..This is a very sobering thought.

I, thankfully, was not raised in the religion and have no family there so I don’t have to deal with family ‘shunning me’. The stories I have read on the forum by other ex-JWs are heartbreaking.. It’s hard to fathom the tragedy that people are going to their graves after not speaking to their flesh and blood for decades just because somebody left a religion (which was not just a belief but a lifestyle)!

Overrated

Longhairgal- This is one thing I have to deal with since I chose not to be a JW. Soft Shunning. It's funny how my sisters try to recruit my wife endlessly.

Queequeg

Hell, yes!

Biahi

Recently saw some family, since they soft shun me. They are completely bewildered because I’m happy and have a good life. Actually, much better than theirs. It doesn’t match what the borg tells them, that we are all miserable, drug addicted, etc. 😀They just don’t quite know what to say. But they never try to preach, either. It backfires on them. Haha

minimus

I’ve never heard of soft shunning. I like it.

Since You Have Left The Religion Are You Happier?

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