If you are against the Jehovah Witnesses, or the Watchtower does that mean that you must be bitter? If you think that maybe just maybe what they[wt] say is wrong and/or what they do, some of it is wrong; does that mean you must be bitter? If you take an objective look at all the facts about this group and come to a conclusion based on the information that you have taken from all sides, how is that being bitter?
If you want to know why someone is against something but you only take your information from the other side stating that opposition is borne out of hate and loss of what one had, how is that being fair? If someone only took information from those who oppose something the same thing goes.
When I first started dating my wife as soon as I told my family, friends and coworkers that she was a Jehovah Witness they bombarded me with emotional facts about how wicked they are. They told me begged me to end the relationship before it was to late and I got sucked in. I just could not understand all the panic. Did they think I was an idiot incapable of making my own choices? It ended a lot of friendships, some of them since gradeschool. Later just before we married the elders demaned a meeting with my wife. She refused; Disfellowshippent followed. I still did not understand the impact of what that act would mean. Not one person in her family attended our wedding; Never has any real love been shared with her family. Right after our first child was born suddenly they came into our life again. For some reason my mother in law asked me if I have read anything about JW's. I said not really which up till then was true. My wife did not talk about it and most of my cult study was on other Organizations. The JW's were just not that important to me. She made me promise that I would not read any material about them because it is all lies. And the internet is full of people who hate the JW's. She asked me if I would look at things from their point of view to be fair. Which I agreed but only in writing. No meetings and no "studies." They did not like it but agreed. There were more mulit-hour debates about religion and the world than I can count in those years with her. And as I watched them I saw how hateful and controlling they were to each other. Mostly how afraid they always were. It was strange. As the two years ended so did our realtionship. I really think my In Laws are very cruel people. And so are the JW's. I saw it, read it, and lived it. Not just to me, not just to my wife. I watched them do it to each other. They say it is all because that is how they see the word of God. However, I see it as a cycle of violence. Both mental and physical violence. Cycles always continue until broken or someone dies. I was shocked at how much information is available about this group. It is not all bitterness and lies, it is reality, it is history, it is the facts. I hope you keep looking at all the facts and listening to all the people. Read read read and don't be afraid. Many people say I am bitter, hateful, and an ass about this. Maybe that is true and if you think so then dismiss what I say. But I really do care about you and the other people here. I care about your husband. I have watched so many people be hurt and continue to live in fear. That does not mean that there is no love or goodness or fun as a JW; But your life is yours and not someone elses to control. If you like being a Witness fine be one and I hope you are happy. But don't think that just because people leave or oppose them they do it out of bitterness or a sense of revenge. That is shallow. Maybe those who are opposed are right to do so.