The elders gave up on me 10 years ago. I have been inactive the last ten years and haven't attended any meetings in seven years.
The elders would hound me with telephone calls, bring Circuit Overseers and District Overseers when they were in town for the assemblies. Since I have over 20 Jehovah's Witnesses in my family, I always knew when they were in town. I did not answer the phone or the door. If they made a surprise visit, my wife would always answer the door and tell them I wasn't home.
My family ( brother, aunts, uncles and cousins ) all leave me alone. They still talk to me, have me over their house and go on 2 day getaways with them. They never ask me why I don't attend any longer or if/when I'll come back.
I do go some wake/funerals/ funeral memorials and everyone leaves me alone. The elders do shake my hand and have small talk but I leave as soon as the small talk is over.
I did have one self-righteous asshole elder last year at my moms funeral ( she was a Jehovah's Witness for over 45 years) say to me ( with my wife standing next to me) as he was leaving the funeral home.....''If you want to see your mom in the new system, you will both need to go back to the meetings''...and walked away. THE ODDS ARE SLIM TO NONE...... !