LOL- I thought this was about Dede too. Until I read that it was really about lying and then I knew it couldn't be about her !!!
Lying is one thing that I detest. I guess I have never understood what is so difficult about telling the truth. And I'm not talking about the little white lies that help to save someone's hurt feelings from time to time. I have always told my daughter that if she does something she wasn't supposed to -yes, there will be consequences for her actions and her choices but if she lies about it the consequences will be much more severe. And she comes to me and tells me the truth- I've seen it in situations where she could easily have lied and I wouldn't have known the difference. Yeehaa !! She feels safe to tell the truth- that is a huge thing for me. She's still a kid and she has some road to travel yet but I think she has some good things going for her with honesty.
I have seen folks lie- here too- where things just don't match up in their "stories". You read something and you think- "But didn't you say something different a couple of weeks ago?" Add a bunch of those "stories" up and you have a liar. But as long as folks continue to believe the stories they spin and give them the attention they pathetically seek with their lies, they will continue to do it. Here it makes me even more irritated because the folks who come here have, for the most part- been lied to by a major force in their life - for most of their lives. And they come for solace and some friendship and run into a couple of folks who make stuff up as they go along and lie to them some more.
People want to feel safe in their relationships with others. Lying is a violation of the trust the liar received from another person and is -like I've said in other posts about this- stealing a piece of that person in addition to lying.
But ya know what? What goes around always comes around. And eventually the person's lies catch up to them. Like a house of cards toppling.
Like Scootergirl has said she tells her kids-- "Tell the truth and you won't have to remember anything"
Lying sucks !!!! And so do liars !!!
XW of the "having a bad day" class