Under pressure to attend the Memorial?

by Victorian sky 11 Replies latest jw friends

  • Victorian sky
    Victorian sky

    Is anyone else under pressure from family to attend the Memorial?If so how are you handling it? What did you say? In my family's case the truth might be too blunt and I dont' know how to soften the blow. Any suggestions?

  • DJ

    Hello Victorian,

    A few years ago my sister and mother handed me the invitation and requested my presence at the memorial. I was surprised to say the least because I had been away from the wt for a few years and they were fully aware that I had no intentions to ever return. I simply asked my sister if she would like to accompany me and be my guest in church for services the following Sunday to celebrate the risen Christ. I also warned her not to be surprised if I partook of the emblems. The look on her face was priceless. I suppose that response is not expected and she had no comeback.

  • TresHappy

    Right after I left, I was bugged this time of year incessantly. Remarks like "we'd love to see you there..." were all in the offings. I haven't been bugged in a while, which is just fine with me!

  • johnny cip
    johnny cip

    go and eat the bread and wine. just like it says in jn 6:53 and then ask the jw's why they walk away from the words of jesus in 6:59 read the whole chapter to them , he that partakes haves eternal life , he that don't has no life. it is simple as that. do you follow the words of jesus or THE WT. JOHN

  • Mutz

    I've already had my sister asking me what I was going to do. It must have been co-ordinated with my mum because she asked about 4 hours later and got most upset when I told her that I had finished with being told how to live by toilet cleaners and d*ckless control freaks.

  • Victorian sky
    Victorian sky

    Mutz, That's funny! Don't know how I'll get out of it, don't want to lie, should be woman enough to tell the truth but I'm a big chicken! - Victorian Sky

  • Dansk

    Victorian Sky,

    Get the first plane outta there and visit us here in Manchester, England. No-one is going to bother you about memorials then!


    Dansk, Physio and Boys

  • liquidsky


    I am going through the same thing only Iv'e already gave in and am attending.

  • Undecided

    I had attended the memorial for 20 years after I was out, then one night I drove by the KH and realized it was memorial night, I had forgot. Haven't been back since. H2O was the awakening for me as far as doctrinal truth was concerned and I will never go back again, except maybe for entertainment.

    Ken P.

  • Mulan

    My mother wouldn't dare bring up anything like that with me. I can tell she is upset whenever we have even a minor discussion about "spiritual things". I just know so much more than she gives me credit for, and it always surprises her.

    If she were to ask me to go to the Memorial, I would have to say something like "sure........I'll go if you go." She is on the phone link and insists she can't go to the KH. (I suspect she is somewhat of an agoraphobic).

    But, I wouldn't go. So that would be a lie..............but I also know she wouldn't go, so it might be worth it.

    This year we will be in Florida with Venice and company!!

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