I Read your post and my heart goes out to you for having to hear someone say those things to you- i'm sure it hurts as much as what happened to me where many of my fomer bethel buddies left messages on our answering machine telling us were going to --die at armageddon --
if we dont' get back to the Sales meeting at the Hall-
at first i was one Pissd off black man- not a good thing to be around at that time-- could be that "Black Rage Thang"
anyway after awhile i could no longer get upset with any JW who would say what the elder said to you or any of my former jw friends
for my wife and i realized that THE JOKE IS ON THEM and how sad
my wife has an aunt who is suffering from a sickness much like you- pain all over her body and joints
yet despite the weather she has to try and go out and sell worthless book in the snow and cold- just watching her trying to climb steps is so sad- yet she firmly beleives that she will get paid on FRIDAY
all the while you and i know that she will never see a check as it were from from WT.
so while others may Dogged the elder it remains me much of Myself and the apostale Paul along with so many others up here
who at one time would Spit in the face of anyone who dared to question the org-
and i find that many of us who were DYED IN THE WOOL jw often feel the most hurt for the cold and unfeeling way we treated those who dare cross the org..
what makes it so funny is the day that this guy leaves wt and realizes he has been Bamboozled and Hoodwinked- he will be like many of us apoligizing to everone that he dogged.
so while i fully understand the pain of being dogged keep in mind that he like the guys in jesus day are much the same
"father forgive them for they no not what they are doing"
and how true those words are for persons who have had the mind and soul captured by a Cult
hope you feel better soon
"I'd rather have questions I can't answer than questions I can't ask (or answers I can't question)."