It sounds like he continued seeing his mistress and abusing you to try and get you to leave
I don't think he wanted me to leave, as is evident by his actions now. He was denied the one he wanted, so he took second best and and continued to treat me as I were secondary to her. I know, sounds like a plot point from The Crown.
Did you keep pictures? Have you contacted government services to report these issues?
Yes I did keep pictures. A worldly friend at work advised me to do so, so we went into the ladies room and she took them with her phone and emailed them to me. The abuse stopped when I started making waves last August about leaving. We briefly reconciled but soon he was up to his old habits again, so I was at my parent's place by October. No governmental services were called as I was still a believing JW at the time.
How can they cut your off a joint account? Did you speak with bank manager?
I could have worded that better. My husband had been caught funneling his money into a private account after I found a few incriminating purchases. He then started giving me cash for daily essentials, saying I wasn't trustworthy to handle the family account. A few things happened, including being stranded on a highway because my car broke down and I didn't have enough cash in the account I had access to for the tow and repair. My mother intervened, and his father started paying a portion of his salary into the joint account as a direct deposit. When they found out I put down a deposit for an apartment lease, the direct deposits stopped and the account is now stagnant.