." Children this age, and she is a child, are entering the rebellious age, and think that the old fogey parents don't know anything. Your older daughters are closer to her age than you are, and she probably thinks they are cool.
Aunthill, you hit the nail on the head.
Although I wouldn't consider myself old fogey, the teen years are tough, and it seems we're always butting heads with our 13 year old quite a bit. Like xjw said earlier in this post, we've had problems with our girls visiting my parents over the years. When we were still in the borg our older daughter would give us problems due to the restrictions of the borg, so when things got tough at home, she would run away and eventually end up at my parents. Why, because they gave her the option to do that. Do I want that with my younger one, NO. Like I posted in Nappy Roots thread, I had to put an end to my mom's manipulation of my daughter. One day my decision was confirmed, as my daughter and I were discussing life in general and she threw it up in my face that if she didn't like our rules she could just go live with "gramma and grandpa". And the look on her face when she said it. OH, If I could have wrapped my hands around my mother's neck at that point I would have.
It's tough enough bringing up children, why would grandparents have to make an even bigger wedge unless they had an agenda. That is completely WRONG.