Just looked at e-mail....rather than phone and say it, I get an e-mail from my mother:
Hello My Beautiful Dolls,
Please don't get angry. I'm letting you know in case you may have remotely considered attending this beautiful occasion with your family.
This is an open invitation to you both, your husbands and my grandson that the Memorial will be held on April 16, 2003, after sundown at your local congregation. If you choose to attend, you can call the local congregation of your choice for the time schedule.
If you do choose to attend, you will benefit yourselves and make my heart glad.
I hope you choose to go and see it. You will enjoy.
Love you dearly,
I have to say that my mother has never been this vociferous on her affections towards me or my husband. This is a recent phenomenon. I believe it stems from my sister being diagnosed with a brain tumor.
The brain tumor has been there for years and is benign...as far as tumors go. However, my sister has milked it for every dollar she can get from my mother. Sis recently decided that after 5 years of not talking to our mother (mom called her husband a loser and slacker in an e-mail she sent sis by mistake-was meant for me...always check addresses before you hit enter!) she would let mom visit for a two week visit.
Mom now feels guilty for saying her husband is a loser (he is) and says the nasty e-mail was just a mistake!!! Sis is playing up her "total love" for our mother. I have e-mails from my sister calling our mother every imaginable name. She told me at our father's funeral last year that she wants to sue our mother....for what? Just because she hated being a JW and it ruined her life....(her own actions played no role in her life choices of course)
My mother is the most phony, hypocritical, lying, scheming person I have ever known...next to my sister.
Now I get the invite to the memorial....she has not invited me to the memorial in 18 years. Ever.
Frankly, I am thisclose to telling her to never contact me again. She has betrayed me on many occasions and now the false "it would make my heart glad"....she does not have a heart...she has a cash register in her chest.
Can you tell I am upset? My sister wrote me a vile, hate filled e-mail 1 1/2 years ago telling me she hated me and never wanted to speak to me....mom attributes this to the tumor. However, this has been my sisters MO for over 20 years.
Verbally and emotionally abuse you and then wait for you to apologize to her!!! I have refused since I did nothing wrong to my sister. My mom insists that I am wrong and that I will always feel guilty for not speaking with her before she dies. My sisters prognosis is to live long...the docs told her, with my mother present, that since the tumor is just sitting there....has been for years.
I am just so tired of dealing with my mother....she will do anything for my sister. Never has for me. In spite of her I have achieved alot and I cannot point to my mother as my inspiration for anything except my cynicism and sarcasm.