A question for those of you who were raised in the cult

by siegswife 13 Replies latest jw friends

  • siegswife

    LOL I think I fit into the "whacked" catagory.

    I used to feel that some of the younger people were somewhat standoffish. At the time I thought it was because I wasn't a lifetime member so there might have been some suspicion that I wasn't "strong" enough (even though I was a gung ho witless).

    Reading the stories here, I thought that maybe it was because they didn't believe it themselves and were living a double life. It's interesting to realize that there was even a degree of jealousy that they never got a chance to live outside the borg. I never would have thought that in a million years at the time.

    You're right about filling a void. I'd been feeling so bad for so many years that finding "the truth" *gag* was like getting a second chance at life. To be honest, becoming a JW and subjecting myself to the control of the bOrg did help me gain some self discipline. I guess it's the same sort of effect the military has on some people.

    It really broke my heart when I realized I was deceiving myself once again, but as the saying goes "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger."



    Hey SiegsWife,LB has mentioned the same thing,about not feeling fully accepted because you were`nt born into the dubs.I think that is usualy done by the members who are real losers everywhere but the Kingdom Hall.It`s obvious when you and LB post,you know what your talking about when it comes to dub world..The people who made you,LB and others feel bad,needed a target to take the attention off of they`re own inadiquacy in real life,I woudn`t give them another thought...OUTLAW

  • blacksheep

    Well, I confess that I have a hard time understanding why anyone would CHOOSE to become a JW. I also felt as a child/teen that I indeed DID live a double life. I always wanted to be accepted and be "normal," but that just didn't/couldn't happen with being a JW. I think I just accepted it as fate; life was just a matter of things you HAD to do, like go to 5 boring meetings a week, go door to door, go to assemblies...

    As hard as it is for me to see someone CHOOSING to do all that, I do think that most people who become JW's have a void of some sort in their lives. I would think they are not happy, and might see the JW's, who claim to know all life's answers, would be appealing, at least at first to people who are at a confusing point in their lives. Plus, knowing all the deception and facades JW's employ to try to make the "brotherhood" attractive to outsiders, I can see where some might see it as the answer. But, for a LOT of people, I think that fades. I know of a lot of people who "left the world," became temporarily zealous, and then "like a dog returning to it's own vomit" (ha ha), went back into the "world."

  • dannyboy

    A big difference that matters now, IMHO, is that those who (like me) were raised "in the truth" have a much more difficult time adjusting to life after the borg. In a sense, being raised a dub like I was (and many others around here) is a form of child abuse that has lingering effects for years and years.

    Getting into the group after becoming an adult, and then leaving: you have the perspective of a former "normal" life to relate to, even if you did things as a youth you don't want to do as a post-JW adult.

    I'd give anything to be able to live the first part of my life over, without Witness parents.

    I think the concept expressed earlier about the Witness life "filling a void" is right on the money. I'd be the last person to ever criticize someone who bought into things.....far more important to feel good about recognizing the falacy of the Watchtower Society.


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