In your story, if you were to reverse the hes & shes, you'd have written most of my story. The stacks of stuff, the old original WT books, even leaving my job!
A few differences
1. We've already been married many, many years. This cult can grab hold and change a person into something not recognizable to long time family & friends. Very very sad but the fact that you are not married, or have children seems to be, although extremely hard - a blessing in disguise.
2. I've already learned that JWs look upon their own rags as an attack upon their god. ANY quote that contradicts what they THINK they are supposed to believe has been somehow satanically reproduced. Classic is "Is Jesus your Mediator." No matter how much time goes by the reaction is the same.
A few things I've learned.
They will always choose loyalty to the Watchtower over ANY loved one if pushed.
Never use the word "Watchtower". (actually, if you say W instead of Watchtower you may get a chance to complete your sentence. Using the letter instead of the word seems to get by their stopthink vocab.)
ASK questions & bring attention to things when ever you see them that are "godly" (the world is FULL of many examples)
like OTHERS that .... protest war, (and are persecuted for it) unselfish charitable acts, (by those who do not ask what god they worship first) fantastic discoveries (the world needs people who use their god given brain) etc.
Moral dilema stories - ask questions.
ABOVE ALL, the love you show far out weighs the superficial love they receive at a KH or their "group only" god. Their god (who they go to great lengths to dissect, separate, and distance) does not value them as an individual. Every human wants and cherishes "individual" love. Even tho they can't give it, hopefully they will notice when they get it.
Eventually I hope to beat this cult with love. That is my plan anyway. Let him see & decide (the man must make the decisions eh?) Just hope the WT doesn't get wind of this and print an article about people who just love you to try & get you out! LOL but I wouldn't be surprised.
Mackey, I feel what you are going thru, is it worth it? I don't know, only you can decide, heck I can't even decide sometimes. It is a LONG haul, one which coould rear its ugly head again years from now.
Take care, Will