Mackey,
I've been there where you have been. I'm not a JW but the woman I love is. It seems like they want the best of both worlds. The "safety and comfort" of the congregation and a "worldly" person also in their life. I'm 29 and she is 25. I've been there for her since day 1 and would like to be there for her for the rest of my days. But it is true, don't push too much. I have in the past, and it has worked against me. Whether she would leave JW for you would be a monumental task. Only thing is take it one step at a time. Sit down and think things thorugh, there's no reason to rush what you may say or do. I wish you the best of luck, this is a difficult situation indeed, but you love her , so do not live in fear...
The Gentleman