this post is truly sad, my wife and i often talk with women just like this. they exp complete humilation, embarassment, stepped on alike a doormate, used like a dish rag, spit on and just over all SHAFT FROM A MAN, and despite all of that they still "Wonder" should they stay with this man
i wonder is it due to the way we raise girls, or is it biological, or a combination of the two,
when my wife or i would ask a woman would a ""MAN" put up with that type of treatment almost to the woman they always say O NO A MAN WOULD NOT ACCEPT THAT TYPE OF BEHAVOIR-
yet it never dawns on them as to why they should as a woman accept it
- it was often believed that due to women not having jobs or money and were dependent on a man that if they had thier own cash they could roll up out of there - and while that is true more women who work- got thier own CASH will leave,
yet it is amazing how some who are not tied down with 6 kids, no money, no credit, no where to live
in fact are very well off or at least OK WILL STILL STAY-
I FIND it many times has to do with the Numbers game, women out number men in most cities and towns, so as one lady told my wife and i - A HALF A MAN IS BETTER THAN NO MAN-
THE PROBLEM IS -- that other half ---is the part that beats, humilates and mentally abuses her- how sad.
recently we attended a FORUM on black male and female relationships and it was mentioned that typically on a friday night sometimes as high as 65% of single women will be home alone, and while the accuracy can be argued, i do know from just my own exp in my community at work and frieds of my wife and other women i know, they far out number men looking for companionship-
now if "Worldly" women must contend with this then add on top of that being a JW or former JW woman, the challenge becomes even greater in terms of trying to find a good man, now if a woman just wants someone to scratch her "Coochie" , then of course she can find that - go to any club or bar and you can almost count on that, but if she is looking for a meaning full relationship that is going somewhere beyond the BEDROOM sad to say too many times that presents challenging issues for some women
so as Lady "C" and i read this post it just brought back thoughts of a few of the former jw women we have had over to the house the issues they were facing much like the lady is here-
all i can say is this, he really has not given you alot to work with, while he could turn out to be the best man in the world , sad to say his track record in my view doesn't offer much hope, while folks can change, i will say this
I will bet the farm that if the tables were turned HE WOULD NOT BE ASKING SHOULD I KEEP HER