uh oh

by Esmeralda 26 Replies latest jw friends

  • mommy

    I am sorry, I know how scary it is when you have children to support too. I grew up in a family with 10 people I KNOW how to survive with nothing Over the years in my adult life I have had to do without, so my kids could have something to eat. I have been that low, but I have also been up making over $1000 a week myself.
    I have never been bothered by money...If I have it I spend it if I don't I don't worry. My ex hated that about me
    I am praying for you and your family. Something will come up, it always does. Just don't get discouraged in the interim.

    David said in proverbs, he never saw one of the Lord's children without bread.

    I beg to differ....but it is a nice thought!

  • crossroads

    Jelly yes I have been through the cycle once before but it
    passed me by that time. This time not so lucky, Maybe HE
    is pointing me in a different direction a lot has changed in
    my life since Dec. is I'm leaving it all up to HIM. By the way
    are you from the southwest?

  • jelly

    Not the southwest just the west.

    My company made memory chips in 1995 we profited (net) 395 million dollors, 14 months after that we were losing 10 mil a month. As far as recent history we cut wafer starts down from 49,000 wafers a month to 17,500 and we are not sure if that is the bottom.

    Jelly (Silicon can suck)

  • Simon

    Sorry to hear that Esmeralda

    I've had some bad work experiences including a company folding leaving me unemployed for a few months and another company ripping me off to the tune of several £k BUT... things are going great now so hang in there. Easy to say, I know but I understand how you must be feeling.

  • RedhorseWoman

    Scary situation, Es. ***HUGS*** My husband has a severe anxiety disorder coupled with alcoholism. As a result, he lost jobs frequently until about 9 years ago when he was unable to work at all.

    I kept things going pretty well for several years, but then I was downsized from a company where I had worked for 15 years. Definite panic time, but we made it through.

    My husband is now on disability, and through a lot of perserverance I found a job much, much better than the old one, although it did take several months.

    Try not to panic....things tend to work out for the best.

  • eyes_opened

    Hey Es,

    So sorry I don't have any wise words, just that our thoughts are with you and hope things get better real quickly.



  • Kristen

    I have no doubt that you both WILL make it through this tough time. Nevertheless, it is a difficult thing to go through. My husband and I both were affected by large corporate downsizing after many years of service. It isn't fun, and I remember clearly the daily stress that went along with the after effects of him being put out in the cold and the "will I have a job next week" mentality that I endured. I ended up leaving the same company on my own initiative after riding the "right-sizing" roller coaster for two years.

    Both of us found new opportunities in a reasonable amount of time. As soon as the one door was closed, many more seemed to open up.



  • Esmeralda

    Thanks everbody. I just showed my husband all your posts and they made him smile :)

    He's already making phone calls and everything...we just have to keep our eyes forward. I know
    he was underpaid at this job so as long as he works in his field (engineering) somewhere from here,
    things have got to go upward.

    Thanks for coming through with all the encouragement, folks. We really appreciate it.

    Essie and "JackDawson" (as he was known at H2O when he posted occaisionally)

    The Four Agreements:
    Be Impeccable With Your Word
    Don't Take Anything Personally
    Don't Make Assumptions
    Always Do Your Best

  • expatbrit

    Hi Es:

    Really sorry to hear about your hubs. layoff. Finances become very worrying at times like this, always lurking at the back of your mind.

    You mention that your hub is an engineer. Has he thought of becoming an independent consultant in whichever field he specialises in? Often companies regret having to layoff good workers, and many are very willing to consider rehiring that same person on a freelance basis, just for fewer hours. It gives the company much more flexibility, plus they only pay for the time they need. On your hubs. side, he is free to pursue other opportunities while still having some income. He can also probably negotiate a higher hourly rate. If the company is probably going to fold, then make sure he has good references! Spray out those letters! Something to consider.

    From the accountant in me: "budget, budget, budget!"
    If you haven't before, now is the time to really analyse and budget your family finances together. Schedule everything, income, expenses, reserves. Prepare projections of how your finances will look in three and six months on your current income levels. Plan, schedule, rearrange and cut back where necessary. You'll find that simply feeling more in control will give you some relief from worry. Less worry, more energy for solution building.

    Sending you best wishes for success!


  • Sunchild

    Hi, Es. I'm sorry about what's happened, and I wish you and your husband all the luck in the world. Bad times don't last forever, and every now and then, they lead to opportunities. I hope this little narrative I'm about to give you proves encouraging.

    My story isn't about financial success (yet!), but it IS about a "negative" situation turning out to be something wonderful. I was laid off from my job -- a job I really liked and which would have paid enough to cover food, clothes and average rent -- a couple of months ago. It was a shock to everyone; on that dark Wednesday afternoon, the company's Grand Poobah just called twnety of us in for a meeting (there were only about 90-100 people working there), handed us envelopes, gave us some lame speech about "higher profitability" and "looking attractive to investors" and told us we were all out of a job. To make things even worse, this happened just one week before I was planning to FINALLY move out of my parents' house and into my very first apartment, which I had already picked out.

    Well, shortly after the layoff the building where I would have been living burned down. Thankfully, I hadn't signed a lease! I also had a second choice... and that burned down within another week. Somehow, I got the feeling that my destiny might not be in Flint, but I had no idea how to move on, what to do, or even, in a lot of ways, exactly who I was. (I broght this up for a reason, but you'll have to be patient to see what it is. )

    I spent a lot of time making new friends online and exploring my newfound lesbian identity: reading books, watching movies (GOOD movies, not porn :P), writing in my diary. I also spent a lot of time rediscovering my spiritual side, which I had started to lose touch with as of late, and even spent a month working out the details of my first novel. I've learned a lot about myself and feel a lot more comfortable in my own skin... but the story doesn't end there.

    In two weeks, I'm moving to Ypsilanti. I realized a week ago that without my job in Flint, there's absolutely nothing keeping me here. I found a great roommate (a bisexual Wiccan -- who would've guessed?) with a house to share, and we'll be working out the details of my move tonight. No, I don't have a job secured yet, but I know I'll find one relatively soon. And Ann Arbor -- the REAL paradise that's practically right across the street from my new home -- doesn't seem to offer jobs that pay less than $7.50/hour. If I have to, I'll work two jobs, I don't care. I'll be out of my parents' house and living more-or-less where I've always wanted to.

    So, what I thought was a disaster turned out to be my ticket to freedom. I just had to be aware of the opportunities around me. Maybe things will turn out just as well for you and your family.


    *Rochelle. :)

    P.S. I've also learned to trust my Tarot cards. So far, they've predicted the loss of my job (and its ultimately being a liberating experience), my time of creativity and introspection, my move to Ypsilanti (specifically, crossing water -- in this case, the Huron River -- to reach a better location and the start of a new phase of my life), and various other things that ended up happening. They also predict that I'll find a good job after my move, and that at some point in the not-too-distant future, I'll end up rich. Let's just hope the cards haven't decided to crap out on me NOW.

    "Most men complacently accept 'knowledge' as 'truth'. They are sheep, ruled by fear."
    -- Sydney Losstarot, "Vagrant Story."

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