Hi Rebel, you are so right. The children should not have their minds shoved into a little cult shaped box when they are trying to grow up into adulthood, with no choice in the matter.
My granddaughter has just started 10th grade and she is so happy to be away from her father's household where they were going to only let her finish 8th grade and then change to home "school." When she was in school there they would not allow her sufficient time to do her homework, they always calling her out of her room to be in the bible study or WT study or go to meetings. She had to clean the kitchen no matter how much homework she had, and frequently stayed up after meetings til 3 in the morning doing homework. Because she hated getting low grades.
If she missed the bus her stepmother would not drive her to school, she just missed the school day. If the orchestra had extra practice they would not drive her, she had to miss it. If she got invited to anything by a school friend she had to turn it down.
Now with her mom she is in a youth orchestra AND the school orchestra. She's taking two computer classes and whatever else she wants to do. But she had to face down her father, stepmother, five step- and half siblings and a herd of elders at age 14, before she escaped. She spent five days being shunned in the house and the kids hating her, until finally her father called my daughter and said Come get her. And then he acceded to change of custody in court.
And guess what else? He has not contacted the child in any way for over a year. A shining wonderful kid who works so hard to achieve her best in school and music. Seems if she can't be under his controlling ignorant thumb she has no value and must be shunned as if she doesn't exist.
I'm grateful to be reminded this morning of how lucky we are to have learned ttatt, and that we were able to help our grandchild to get out of cult jail.