I am an outsider ( a non JW from ) and just accidentally happened to follow a link to this site. I have found these postings really interesting. I would like to tell you a little story of my own too: I was a while ago in a situation where a dated a JW girl. All the time that we were going out she seemed somehow scared to let no one of her friends or anyone else to see us together, we would usually meet in the evening, watch movies, take walks etc. But never did I meet any of her other JW friends, I was wondering that but did not ask about it. However, after a while she seemed to get more and more afraid, she would say that "she did not think that this would work out in a long run etc" and I was wondering why, because we were really getting along fine. But still, we kept seeing each other for a while, because we REALLY liked each other, but all the time she would seem to get more and more afraid of something. Finally, I could not take it anymore, I said to her that I am sorry, but I cant live like this, if you dont accept me as the way I am, then it is better that we dont date anymore. We kissed for goodbye and departed as friends. Just after a couple of weeks she send me a mail where she told me that she missed me, but did not tell directly if she wanted to get back together. We kept mailing each other for months, but did not meet. I was wondering all the time that if she really liked me, why would she not date and see me?
After a while, I started to study about the JW, started to look for information from the internet and see, what was with this organization, and what I found really blew my mind. I could not believe that someone would honestly believe any of the teachings that the Watchtower is feeding these people. And dont get me wrong, I am a believer in Jesus, God and bible, but those teachings that the JW's have... I just cant understand that someone can deliberately twist Gods word that way. But back to the issue, One of their teachings is, that they are not to date and marry anyone outside their religion. This girl that I was dating has been with the organization since her birth, so I guess that she is so deep in the mind control, that even a true love can not bring her out. After I have read all the things about the organization, I know, that I will never be one of them. So I decided that it is wiser for me to stop mailing to her. In my last mail, I told her that I really loved and cared for her, but did not believe the way she did, in the Organization and all.. And that was the end of it.. Sad, so sad :(
It would have been honest for her to tell me in the first place, that the regulations are so strict in JW and that I was not could be considered even a possible candidate for marriage because I was not one of them.. I was really tired in one point, about the late meetings and all, but really cared for this girl and did not want to stop meeting her. And all the time she knew.. that she could not REALLY date me openly and possibly marry me. And because of what? Because of the teachings of the organization, and because of the man made rules, that I am just one of the worldly people, a lesser compared to them and their group.
Love is not enough when it comes to JW, I found it out quite hard way. But I thank God that I found this forum and could read about the experiences of others, those really helped me.
I wish you all the best, I'll keep reading these postings in the future too, that's for sure.